OCCDAVE Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 When I went to get my stuff from my ex she offered friendship.I never agreed to it so she stop texting me and only does here and there .she also admit this guy lets call him alex doesn't love her and still loves his ex.she then told me they have a fwb going but she broke it off the day after she saw me cause she said she has feelings for me.I made the mistake of checking her myspace and it said this Had a great time with alex tonight watching a movie wednesday can't get here soon enough so I can see him Lemme get this right this guy flat out from what u told me is using u yet ur excited and wanna spend time with him.was her breakin things off with that guy her way of wanting me to ask her for another chance cause I ignored it. Sorry if I bored u I've gotten no sleep past 2 days and im beyond stressed
Joker77 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 When I went to get my stuff from my ex she offered friendship.I never agreed to it so she stop texting me and only does here and there .she also admit this guy lets call him alex doesn't love her and still loves his ex.she then told me they have a fwb going but she broke it off the day after she saw me cause she said she has feelings for me.I made the mistake of checking her myspace and it said this Had a great time with alex tonight watching a movie wednesday can't get here soon enough so I can see him Lemme get this right this guy flat out from what u told me is using u yet ur excited and wanna spend time with him.was her breakin things off with that guy her way of wanting me to ask her for another chance cause I ignored it. Sorry if I bored u I've gotten no sleep past 2 days and im beyond stressed Bro...stop checking the myspace. The night after my ex broke up with me, I deleted my profile just so I didn't have the opportunity to check on her again. It sounds like she is keeping you around as a backup. Move on man as hard as it is. Walk away with your dignity and pride still in place.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Hey...I think your mind is just overloaded. She is lying and playing games with you. Im not really sure why she would tell you she has a FWB with another guy, why would she want to hurt you like that!? Do you really want a girl like this as even a friend,NO...she clearly has issues and you need to stop contact. Maybe in a few months or a year you can be friends with her, but not now. As soon as u delete her from your myspace and move on you are going to feel soo much better.
Island Girl Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Hey...I think your mind is just overloaded. She is lying and playing games with you. Im not really sure why she would tell you she has a FWB with another guy, why would she want to hurt you like that!? Do you really want a girl like this as even a friend,NO...she clearly has issues and you need to stop contact. Maybe in a few months or a year you can be friends with her, but not now. As soon as u delete her from your myspace and move on you are going to feel soo much better. Absolutely true. You need to move on and not have any contact at all. She is playing games and she obviously doesn't care that it is torturing you. She is sleeping with another guy. Just remind yourself of that. She wouldn't be doing that if she was serious about getting back together with you. And girls who get used by a FWB relationship usually have some crazy crap goin' on in their heads. They get stuck on the guy and get all twisted. Just cut her loose. If you want to be friends with trash you'd be safer going out to the local dumpster and getting yourself a nice big bag that won't be a succubus and you will have it with you as long as you want.
cabarc1 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Like tryng2trust said...why would she give you details on what's going on in her life when it comes to seeing other guys and how great they are??? Why on earth would you care to know that???? I think i've read all ur posts and i'm seriously in awe of the junk she tells you. I can't imagine how hurtful it is for an ex to tell someone they dumped how great another person is. I've been the dumper before and there was no way in hell i would have ever said that stuff to my ex or let him find out what i was doing. I cared about him deeply and knowing he was going through pain killed me. I tried everything to ease it for him. I must be naive about how cruel people are but i really feel for you. I just can't understand that she doesn't realize that she is hurting you when she says stuff like that and that makes her a terrible person. Please for the love of God, do everything possible to get away from her and not check up on her, something about her just seems very off!!!! You are way better than that!!!
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 I will just keep moving forward like you people tell me.I was just beyond confused and hurt cause she's telling me ya I slept me this guy and looked like she was embarrassed cause she wouldn't even look at me as she told me.last convo we had she said ya we broke things off but im not gonna sleep with him anymore just friends.I almost threw up hearing that why would a girl want to be with a guy who admits to loving his ex and not u.to top it off you have this guy at your house and in front of the kids confusing them once again.last I heard this is already her second bf since dumping me 3 months ago.I am just angry at myself cause this girl has proven she is trash yet I can't stop thinking of her.I guess the main reason I get angry I gave her and the kids all I had yet it wasn't enough yet some guy who admits he loves his ex is able to have his cake and still get seconds ugh. Btw tuesday will be a full week of nc heh I had 2 months but then we started texting .
EasyHeart Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Dave, I am going through something similar. My ex told me she needed time to work on herself and didn't want to date anyone for a long time. Three days later she met a guy in a bar and after two dates was in a 'relationship' with him. She says I will always be her best friend, so she told me about their dates and what a great guy he is, how much I would like him and that she couldn't wait for me to meet him! Everyone told me the same things they're telling you -- cut contact completely. If she wants to find you, she knows where you are. But if she does, she needs to be completely available. Do not be her back-up. Do not be her shoulder to cry on while she's screwing this other guy. If she wanted to be with you, she would be. For some reason, she's keeping you around for friendship and emotional support, but SHE'S SCREWING THIS OTHER GUY! You are a total chump if you let her treat you this way. Having said that, I know it's a lot harder to do than to say. I keep checking my email to see if she's written. I think about her all the time. I keep running through our relationship, thinking of all the things I could have done differently. I keep wanting to go to places I know she'll be so I can 'bump into' her. I keep checking her FB page. I keep wondering what's so great about this guy she's screwing and why she would choose him over me. And I cry a lot. But I know it will be a lot worse if I keep letting her toy with me. I deserve better than an immature, psychologically damaged woman like her. She's someone else's problem now. And FWIW, from way both of our exes sound (confused, emotionally unstable), they are not going to be happy in the long run. I know that in my head, but I have trouble believing it in my heart. I keep imagining running into her a few months from now and finding out she's miserable and alone, and me getting the last laugh. But more commonly, I imagine running into her and having her say, "OMG, I am SO happy now!" and that would kill me. I know how much it hurts. I'm feeling it, too. But we've got to stay strong.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 You can do it...if she truly loved you she would NOT be telling you she was with another guy and having sex with him....but she was going to cut it off HUH!? My and my ex have gotten into heated arguments I have said many things to him I shouldt have but there is NO way in hell would I ever throw another guy in his face, I have that much respect for him. I told him I was going out the other night, because we were texting, but I made sure I let him know it wasnt with a guy..not like it's his business anymore, but I don't want him to think I am out galavanting and I am just fine with us being broke up. You really need to move on and just get angry at her, someone that loves you would not do this. She wants another guy, so let that guy have her because you do not want her anymore. I am sorry you are going through this, and she is stringing you along and hurting you more and more. Don't let her do it to you another day.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 See like everyone said here they would never go and tell an ex they are sleeping with someone else.I will keep nc this time around no good will come from breaking it.like I said in my last post kissing her and her telling me she had feelings for me was tempting but I didn't fall into her game.she is full of mind games I could have taken that as a sign and it would have backfired and all I did to this point would have gone for nothing.I hope one day she grows up and notices how good she really did have it cause she won't find a better guy then me.I was the best father those kids have known and she knows it.I am sorry if I sound like a broken record on these boards but the more I post and see the good advice im getting my mindset changes.I came to this forum being a big doormat and blaming me for the whole breakup but not anymore .
EasyHeart Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Dave, we all know what you're going through. Why else do you think we're on this forum?? This is were the broken-hearted come to share their pain and help other people make good decisions when their brains are overloaded with emotions. I'm missing my ex like crazy. It tears me up inside to know she's screwing another guy while I'm posting on a lonely hearts forum. And I know that she is never, ever going to have a BF as good as me. Of course, knowing that doesn't make the hurting go away. Women mess with us. Whether it's intentional or not, I don't know. I just know that her actions have hurt me more than I thought I could ever hurt. I feel betrayed and lied to because she always said that she loved me, wanted to grow old with me, and would always work to keep our relationship going. Those we all lies. It's like I was with someone for 1.5 years and never knew what she was really like. And though it hurts to be without her, I know that she will hurt me even more if I give her the pleasure of knowing that I miss her. I am going to heal, and then I am going to find someone who deserves a great guy like me. So are you. And our exes will drift from loser to loser and one day realize that they really blew it. It's going to happen. I'm sure of it.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 I know how you feel its real hard.heck for 3 years I felt everything was good with her no bad could come.I won't lie we had our fights but nothing we couldn't work out.she told me to marry her around xmas the next day dumped me and following week had a new bf.I think its safe to say even now I don't know what her mindset was or how long this guy was looming.I won't lie like I said when she kissed me and told me she had feelings for me I was and still till now think should I have taken that has a sign to go.I then remember im the dumpee so i can't crawl back to her after the pain she put me through.I guess what hurts above all else I miss her two kids who looked up to me as a dad and loved me sigh
stovepipe Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 my ex doesn't even tell me that...she tells everyone that sits around me at work so that I have no choice but to hear it. she told me she wanted to be able to talk to me about her weekends and I knew it involved some guy. I said no. Went NC with her. She ended our friendship because i couldn't be the friend i used to be to her and now talks about him out loud at work. im honestly in shock that anyone would do that to someone, tell them knowing its hurts you. I don't know why anyone would agree to hear about it. Love does crazy things. Stay NC, I'm going on 3 weeks I think. I feel better and better everyday.
lostsunsets Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 man you are well rid of her. The only thing you should text her the next time she texts you, because she will do it, is "don't text me again. You are a skank and I am worried you will give my phone an STD"
lonetiger Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 i have to agree with everyone on the fact....you need to stop checking up on her on MYSPACE. i know tht it is totally hard to do, because you can snoop as deep as you want on her profile, but seriously...MYSPACE is adding to your pain. think about it...do you find yourself checking out her new "friends"? if she left them comments? If they left her comments? if she posted a comment on their pictures..if they left comments on her photos...MYSPACE damages alot of relationships...get rid of it!
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 Ya ill get rid of it as we speak cause its doing no good.im still hardly sleeping or eating for that matter and have lost a lot of weight due to this breakup.sigh Btw today marks a full week nc yippie meh
lonetiger Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 good for you!!! glad to hear tht you are going bye-bye with myspace! as for your ex, i feel tht she is posting things on her status and moods because she knows tht you will be checking her page...it's like she's adding salt to your wounds. pull yourself together, eat something, hold your head high and show her tht you are too good for her little games. it's gonna take time for you to heal, which i am healing myself right now, but be strong...you can do it! everytime i feel the urge to send my ex a message, i bring myself to LS...read threads, and then the urge somewhat passes:) Go for 2 weeks with NC!!
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 Meh had a tough day today but today does mark a week nc.its hard having feelings for some who's bad for you and treat u bad. Sigh
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