gavinus Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Basically my ex was not good to me and dumped me. She sent me a friendly happy text a week ago which I did not reply to. It has been NC for 3 weeks. When I left my workplace, I passed a line of traffic on my bike and guess who I saw in her car....her!!!! I took off as I was upset, I then got home and texted her I just passed you. I did not put my name on the text. Why did I do this????? She has not responded. In a way I suppose this is a good thing as I was thinking of sending her an email saying I miss her, love her etc....life goes on.
Joker77 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Basically my ex was not good to me and dumped me. She sent me a friendly happy text a week ago which I did not reply to. It has been NC for 3 weeks. When I left my workplace, I passed a line of traffic on my bike and guess who I saw in her car....her!!!! I took off as I was upset, I then got home and texted her I just passed you. I did not put my name on the text. Why did I do this????? She has not responded. In a way I suppose this is a good thing as I was thinking of sending her an email saying I miss her, love her etc....life goes on. Do not...I repeat DO NOT do send her an email. She dumped you. You have to get back on the no contact horse and keep riding.
Author gavinus Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 i will not contact her again,
Joker77 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 i will not contact her again, I had a couple of no contact hiccups so I wish you the best of luck.
Author gavinus Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 She has contacted me saying good luck with what I am doing, then she said its nice to hear from me by the way. Do I reply? I love her but she told me when she dumped me, I am the cause of her anger etc etc, do I give her attention?
Joker77 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 She has contacted me saying good luck with what I am doing, then she said its nice to hear from me by the way. Do I reply? I love her but she told me when she dumped me, I am the cause of her anger etc etc, do I give her attention? Don't give her the validation. Do not reply.
Joker77 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Validation?? Don't give her what she wants...which is you pining for her.
Author gavinus Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Can I say thanks or ta only? or just NC? she hurt me a lot
paperchase Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Listen carefully. Do not respond to her text. Go back to NC. She is over you. She told you good bye and good luck. Seeing her made you reach out again and she gave you nothing but an obligatory text. You are clearly not healed and until you are you should not contact her or accept any contact from her. Once you are healed, you still may never want to talk to her again. Everytime I have broken NC it hurts like heck and I kick myself for doing it.
IcemanJB Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Interesting, the same thing happened to me about a month after my breakup. I saw her twice in a week (once we were both out running, another I was driving), after I tried going NC. She texted me on one of those days, to which I didn't respond. Then we ran into each other at a bar later that week, said she was sad I didn't respond, she wanted to talk (we did) and I realized it hurt too much. Finally I told her I wanted NC, and she's honored that request for 3 months now. Stay NC, don't say anything to her. If she cares and respects you, she'll stay NC for you.
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