ioncebelieved Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I like so many others on have been through a rough time where at the time, I could not see that my pain was so easily seen by others. It is just something you cannot hide. My ex called me three times a few weeks ago which shocked the living hell out of me. Do I still love her? Yes, with all that is in me! Would I take her back? Yes, with all that is in me, but ONLY if she came back like I wanted. Do I still hurt like I did? No, with all that is in me. It really pisses me off that the ex seems to playing games now hoping I will start chasing her again. I will never make contact again with ex until she lays it all on the line. Calling several times then disappearing just does not cut it with me. For I am not the same person she broke months ago. It seems now that my pain is almost gone, I have that SHINE about me that I once did before getting so hurt by my ex. I have several women that really are seeing the old me and it feels great! I am the prize and the ex lost in the long run. Bottom line to all those that are hurting: You cannot fully move on until the pain is gone. Once the pain is gone, people will take notice of you again! The new and improved you.
inulg Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 bravo!!! thats a very hard thing to just ignore them like that... it's been about 10 months since the breakup of my 7yr long relationship, and i'm finally to that point...
Author ioncebelieved Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 bravo!!! thats a very hard thing to just ignore them like that... it's been about 10 months since the breakup of my 7yr long relationship, and i'm finally to that point... It is true, over time the pain just seems to fade away. Does not mean I love her any less, just love her games less. Several months ago I would have analyzed the hell out of her calling, but now I am like whatever. She can either come correct or just stay gone! So I guess that I almost there. Until ex shows up at my doorstep, she is as gone as she ever has been. Only thing now is I am strong person with much to offer.
ecfc2003 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 It is true, over time the pain just seems to fade away. Does not mean I love her any less, just love her games less. Several months ago I would have analyzed the hell out of her calling, but now I am like whatever. She can either come correct or just stay gone! So I guess that I almost there. Until ex shows up at my doorstep, she is as gone as she ever has been. Only thing now is I am strong person with much to offer. This is reassuring, especially for those of us who are hurting about to begin the process of moving out. Thanks!
kdark Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 It's been over a year, and the pain has not subsided at all. It has only shifted from missing her to a feeling of utter loneliness for me. But it's been so long that the pain has become an everyday thing for me, and i'm used to it. But I don't think my case is normal by a long shot.
sedgwick Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 It's been over a year, and the pain has not subsided at all. It has only shifted from missing her to a feeling of utter loneliness for me. But it's been so long that the pain has become an everyday thing for me, and i'm used to it. It is 19.5 months since my 10-month relationship broke up. I am not over him in any way at all. I have never mourned this long. I no longer date. I no longer have sex. The pain has become an everyday thing for me too. I used to be a happy, joyful, confident person, and now I'm happy on the outside but still so lonely and broken on the inside. There was before him, and now there's after. I haven't stop thinking of him for one second since he left me (giving as the only reason that I have the wrong career; i.e., not the same one as him.) I dream of him every night. I still talk to him -- or rather, talk to the air, because he no longer speaks to me. Talk about "not normal"...
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