onestepin Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Tried online dating and spoke for like 3 months then finally got to hook up on a first date and things went very well and talked for quite some time. I learned she was a few months out of a failed engagement and continued with the dates anyway because we had so much in common. We dated for around a month and never had sex, but did hold each other and kiss, etc. I never tried to push anything and to be honest the situation was impossible unless we went to a hotel or something. Anyways she probably was not used to being treated to everything or going out that much but out of no where she said she needed to slow things down and time. I am fully aware that it was a rebound relationship with her, but I continued anyway. We hit it off amazingly and talked for hours, etc. So my question is what can I expect this to come too? I'm not entirely sure how much slower you can get because like I mentioned we never got intimate and kissed maybe 12 or so times. This is also a semi-long distance relationship and at most we would only be able to see each other once a week at most. Cliffs: - We spent a hell of a lot of time together for a month, and it was close to her breaking up a failed engagement. - The signs were there and totally mutual - She wants to slow down/take time now even though at most we would only see each other once a week Thoughts or opinions? Any other woman and I wouldn't care but no other woman clicked so well and its a weird situation.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Honestly? I'd say she is keeping her options open. Not that there is anything wrong with what she has with you - she may just not want to be tied down right now.
Joker77 Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Be very careful here. Let her make the moves here. If you come on too strong and are around all the time, you could push her away....especially considering she's fresh out of a failed engagement.
Author onestepin Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Any other suggestions? Should I have not went the NC route already? She said it would be alright if I came down every once in a while and hang out. I told her I would not contact her or anything and if she wanted to talk or hangout my phone was always availible.
Fiaman Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 You said it yourself. It's a rebound realtionship, you know this already. Be smart and let it be before you hurt yourself.
IcemanJB Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 I agree with the others. I say back off, and if she wants to move forward she'll let you know.
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