redmelon Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I think that would be grounds for a restraining order, hahaah
Ronni_W Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 It just reinforces negative behavior How was it "negative behaviour" on her part, to lend him the money that he needed, when he needed it? Dude, you owe her the money whether she is an angel or the devil. Mortgage companies are not always upstanding corporate citizens...does that mean we don't have to repay them, either?
Author dudemag Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 How was it "negative behaviour" on her part, to lend him the money that he needed, when he needed it? Dude, you owe her the money whether she is an angel or the devil. Mortgage companies are not always upstanding corporate citizens...does that mean we don't have to repay them, either? mortgage companies dont have sex with you and then cheat on you with another man
Ronni_W Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 mortgage companies dont have sex with you and then cheat on you with another man Like I said before, just decide to pay her back, or not. Your own conscience is what influenced you to start this thread...why else? Either listen to it, or tell it to shut up. Pay her back, OR NOT. It's totally within your own power and control to make that decision, and then to act accordingly. If you don't pay her back, she'll get over it one way or another.
a_f_w Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 dont be so quick to judge what you know only fragments about. I know as much about it as everyone else who's replied so far, so presumably that applies to them as well. Everyone - don't be so quick to quick to "judge" the situation (unless you wanted to tell him to keep the money, that's ok to say).
EasyHeart Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 mortgage companies dont have sex with you and then cheat on you with another man Exactly right. She betrayed you and lied to you; why do you have to be forthright and honest with her? Maybe next time she'll think twice about cheating on someone if she knows something bad (ie, lose $1500) if she ****s over someone.
IcemanJB Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Paying the money back does not have ANYTHING to do with how awful of a person she is. It is NOT his money! He borrowed it, and she was nice enough to lend it. All these responses of "she cheated on you, why should you pay her back?" are extremely immature and just sound childish. I'm not saying he has to be all nice to her, but just take the high road and pay the damn money back.
Treasa Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 If you borrowed the money from her, you should pay it back. As others have said, this has nothing to do with what kind of person she is, and everything to do with what kind of person you are.
Ronni_W Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 mortgage companies dont have sex with you and then cheat on you with another man And most (sane, mature, forward-thinking) people don't borrow money from people they are having sex with. In the future, when you get shafted and it feels like "Life" is boinking you in the ass and/or you're being randomly victimized...it won't be "Life" and it won't be "random". What goes around, comes around. Your ex, on the other hand, is going to be reaping excellent rewards for her kindness, with interest and bonuses. What goes around, comes around. YOU are the one who chose to use the person YOU were having sex with like a lending institution! SHE went along with it, possibly out of some misguided notion of being "helpful" -- You're right: What a cold, cruel, heartless bitch, lending you money like that just cos you needed it .
Author dudemag Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Someone needs to get off their high horse
Author dudemag Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 If you borrowed the money from her, you should pay it back. As others have said, this has nothing to do with what kind of person she is, and everything to do with what kind of person you are. You're absolutely right. I'm wounded, hurt, and not feeling very generous. You guys are right! What goes around comes around.
GorillaTheater Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Someone needs to pay back the money and move on.
IcemanJB Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 You're absolutely right. I'm wounded, hurt, and not feeling very generous. You guys are right! What goes around comes around. It's got nothing to do with how you're feeling. You seem very closed to any advice, which is weird considering you started the thread.
EasyHeart Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 No, he's waiting for someone to make a rational argument in favor of paying her back. The arguments are all 'it's the right thing to do' and that she'll feel worse if you pay it back (which is bull****). I agree that you should never loan money to a BF/GF, but that's already done. This question is why (absent a written contract) he owes this cheating witch anything.
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