dudemag Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 if your ex girlfriend of 2 years set herself up with a guy you had suspicions about, and dumped you for him... if she let you borrow 1500$ to help pay for school during your relationship.. and if she lost her job and she really needed the money. but she tore your heart out and swallowed it whole. and was just an all around shady cold bitch.. what would you do?
princess Linda Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 honestly i would give her the money back.. u know why? b/c in the end she'll feel even WORSE than she does now.. she'll see how good of a guy u really are.. and she'll be eaten alive with guilt and shame. if you want revenge.. that is the best way to get it.. and guess what? it's the right thing to do. keeping the money would hurt her.. but only for a moment.. she'd find another way to get it.. and she wouldn't think much more of you than she already does now. *being a girl and picturing that situation.. i believe if your enemy wants to slap you.. then let them.. and turn the other cheek too!.. b/c guess what!.. that is the BEST "revenge" -or not.. good luck w/ everything! xo
Author dudemag Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 yeah i totally agree with you. but i am just so furious with her right now. she basically ended things with me christmas night, and then the following new years, she was already with him. i just recently found out she has already been on long distance vacation with him this past month. total mind ****. i just see this as karma avenging me.. i dont know what to do im so helpless
princess Linda Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 btw: why isn't your ex's new guy helping her out?.. i can tell what a good guy u are b/c you are considering this subject.. most people would just never pay the money back & call it quits. but the fact that you're debating this is a good sign... i'm sure whatever u decide will be a good choice.. do what u feel is right* don't let her crazy antics get in the way of what you want to do.. she's the one that's out of control & one day she'll realize what a lousy loser in life she's being.
Author dudemag Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 i love her so much, and i only want what's best for her. but she betrayed me in such an unimaginable way. she was the sweetest most innocent girl. i dont get how she could do this to me... i just want to drive down there and beat the ever loving **** out of her new boyfriend.
Ronni_W Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 just an all around shady cold bitch Paying back what you rightfully owe her doesn't depend on who/what she is...it depends on who/what YOU are, and on YOUR values and integrity. Your actions (or inaction) will always represent YOU, not anybody else.
princess Linda Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 gosh i don't know what to say.. i feel almost guilty being a girl sometimes.. b/c i know how evil 'we' can be. just know that she's the one with the problems.. and letting go of her & her false love might be hard for you right now but i pray that you focus on what's best for you & of course you will find some1 better -good guys like you get snatched up fast.. u just be picky & don't jump in2 your next relationship.. make sure the next girl knows what she wants. *maybe u can read my blog & tell me how terrible i am* -i'm going thru this 'crazy situation that i've developed on my own' -i broke up w/ my ex 2days ago & i'm totallly regreting it. it's not for "another guy" -but for my "future hopes" -i don't even know anymore.. i can't even make sense of what i once thought made sense. -all i can think about is him
Citizen Erased Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 i need more insight!! More insight or a different opinion telling you to stick it to the cheating whore and go and spend the money on strippers? Be a decent person, unlike her, and do the right thing.
Ronni_W Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 she let you borrow 1500$ That's the weirdest thing I've ever heard . Well, one of. YOU borrowed that money because YOU needed it. SHE was kind (or stupid?) enough to loan it to you. It sounds as if you're trying to talk yourself out of your own financial responsibilities and obligations. Which, even if you are successful at that, doesn't mean that you're NOT responsible for debts that YOU wrack up! Just decide to pay her back, or not. No need to ALSO try to BS yourself that there are any valid reasons for not doing it.
Author dudemag Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 strippers seems like the right thing to me right now LOL j/k i dont do strip clubs
princess Linda Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 well don't take your anger out on her new bf. -of course u wont* i don't know the details but it sounds like u two are still talking.. she must be young & still trying to figure out who she is & what she wants. the only insight to this is that she's not as nice or innocent as you believe & that is the harsh reality of love. b/c if she was as nice & innocent as you believe.. then she would have never done this. ever. so.. in my opinion it's best to move on =just tell her* i'll pay u the money back.. and that's the only thing i want to talk to you about.. i don't want to know how your doing & i am not going to tell you what i've been up to. after i pay you back. i wish you the best life you can give yourself." just focus on your goals.. don't let her suck anymore good energy out of u!
Author dudemag Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 thats just it though, he is a mutual "acquaintance." and she doesnt try to keep contact with me. only when she needs something. i try to talk to her but she ignores me. thats how she broke it off with me, by just giving me the cold shoulder.
princess Linda Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 listen.. all girls like flowers right? well this is what a lot of girls do (pretend men are like flowers* -some are beautiful to look at -the outter appearance, some are nice smelling -the inner appearance, some are wild and thorny --u get the idea)...so imagine a girl walking along a garden.. she picks the best smelling and brightest flower she likes & she loves it and adores it. then as she walks along smelling the beautiful flower she picked... she see's another flower that's bigger and brighter.. so she tosses the original flower & picks a new one.. but she goes to smelll it and realize that it doesn't smell at all!.. in fact it down right stinks.. the new flower loses it's appeal and so she looks & searches all over the garden for an other flowers that have both qualities. except she can't find any.. and she realizes that the original flower -the first one she picked was the brightest & prettiest of all. she goes to look for it in the same spot she left it and she see's that the wind has blown the original flower away to a new spot and the flower found some nice soil & planted seeds & started new life. ok.. so that's a down right cheesy analogy.. but that's how i think of love* -the flower can be guys or girls.. anyway.. just be careful not to be a pansy! stand up for yourself -focus on your goals/hopes/dreams & let that be your sun.. so you can grow bigger brighter & then wait for the right girl to come along and pick you *you'll know when your being fully appreciated!
Author dudemag Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 so you're saying im the bestest flower in the whole garden???
a_f_w Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 i can tell what a good guy u are b/c you are considering this subject.. most people would just never pay the money back & call it quits. but the fact that you're debating this is a good sign... Really? I'd say the fact that he's debating it is a very worrying sign. How could you not pay her back, in full, RIGHT AWAY?
Author dudemag Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Really? I'd say the fact that he's debating it is a very worrying sign. How could you not pay her back, in full, RIGHT AWAY? dont be so quick to judge what you know only fragments about.
Author dudemag Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 im finding it difficult because she is a selfish bitch who only cares about herself. and she has the nerve to expect me to pay her back after she cheated on me? scuse me but im just trying to find insight from other people. not finger pointing
LostLamb Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Hi, When I was dumped my ex owed me money but it was only £80. He gave me it back on Dec 21st (the last time I ever saw him , fact fans). He also had a large amount of my money(£5k plus) in his account which he gave me straightaway. If I were you I would be tempted to keep the money..for 3 minutes then arrange to pay her back. Why? Because she was kind enough to lend you the money in the first place. And might take yopu to the small claims court!
IcemanJB Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 im finding it difficult because she is a selfish bitch who only cares about herself. and she has the nerve to expect me to pay her back after she cheated on me? scuse me but im just trying to find insight from other people. not finger pointing She may be like that, but as someone said before, this has NOTHING to do with what kind of person she is. Returning the money is a reflection of YOUR character, not hers. Just do the right thing.
EasyHeart Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 It's fine and good to be noble and say he should pay her back, but dude has a point. If she lied and cheated on him, why repay her by being honorable? It just reinforces negative behavior and teaches her that there are no consequences to her actions. I say keep the money and tell the cheating witch to kiss your *ss.
redmelon Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Maybe you should send her the money and enclose a note that says "I am paying you back the money you lent me because it's the right thing to do, but it in no way excuses or lessens the hurt you have needlessly put me through because of your careless and disrespectful ways."
Author dudemag Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 or i could mail her my toe nail clippings
Citizen Erased Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 or i could mail her my toe nail clippings Eew, don't even joke. Creep-ay.
IcemanJB Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Eew, don't even joke. Creep-ay. Creepy, but effective!
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