deejaylove Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 I hope I'm posting in the right forum... I've been dating a guy for a few weeks now. We see each other every other day or so, and I really like him a lot. He seems to feel the same. We started having sex a few days ago, and it's amazing. I could just stay naked with him all the time. The problem I see, though, is that we go for hours, but in the four times we've had sex, he has only gotten off once. He hinted that it was the condom, but didn't actually come out and say it... I however, have never had so many orgasms. I plan on talking to him about it. It's important to me that he is satisfied. But I really want to be armed with some ideas before I bring it up. He seems to really enjoy himself, and we do use the ultra thin condoms. I even whipped out some of that KY "Yours and mine" lube, and I thought it was going to work. It did for me, but not for him! I am not willing to go off the condoms, so what can I do here? Thanks!
kdark Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Just talk to him about it. The best kind of sex is when you are comfortable enough with your partner to "feel each other out" about what you like and dislike. Maybe he has a certain position that really works wonders for him that you don't know about...
Author deejaylove Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 Yeah, I totally plan on talking to him about it. I would just like some things I could suggest to him so that I don't just sound accusatory. Like I said, I really like this guy and I don't want to screw this up!
kdark Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 My suggestion would be, since you said you two just started having sex, i would keep it cute and low pressure. After you orgasm, say something like "now what do i have to do to get you off?" Don't be pushy, and definitely don't make it a sit down "we need to talk" kind of thing. That will just push him away. Some guys are just built to last. On one hand its great cause we can go for hours, but on the other hand it makes our girlfriends insecure... Such a curse...
Chicago_Guy Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I hope I'm posting in the right forum... I've been dating a guy for a few weeks now. We see each other every other day or so, and I really like him a lot. He seems to feel the same. We started having sex a few days ago, and it's amazing. I could just stay naked with him all the time. The problem I see, though, is that we go for hours, but in the four times we've had sex, he has only gotten off once. He hinted that it was the condom, but didn't actually come out and say it... I however, have never had so many orgasms. I plan on talking to him about it. It's important to me that he is satisfied. But I really want to be armed with some ideas before I bring it up. He seems to really enjoy himself, and we do use the ultra thin condoms. I even whipped out some of that KY "Yours and mine" lube, and I thought it was going to work. It did for me, but not for him! I am not willing to go off the condoms, so what can I do here? Thanks! He's probably just nervous. If you start bringing it up, he's going to feel more pressure and you might make things worse. Maybe he isn't comfortable with you just yet?
Author deejaylove Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Yeah... you're probably both right. I definitely don't want to make him uncomfortable and I definitely don't want to scare him away... He does seem really comfortable with me. I mean, he has been really straightforward about everything. I don't think he would mind if I brought it up lightheartedly, but I'm not sure anymore if I should... It's funny, because I'm not really insecure, just eager to please him the way he pleases me, ya know? And whenever we stop it's because he "needs a rest"... not because I've had enough. Then after that, we usually stay naked and cuddle to sleep. He's definitely showing the signs that he's into me.
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