iwonderwhyme Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 I am a 24 year old woman. I have a high profile client who is about 55. To complicate matters more, I am one of HIS clients as well. We have gotten to know each other quite well over the past year and have become pretty good friends. When we first met and I told him I was getting married, he tried to convince me everytime I saw him that I shouldnt get married (I am no longer married, but for another reason which is completley unrelated). He didnt say why he thought I shouldnt get hitched... but he made it a point to say that at least once a week. A few months ago, I found myself becoming attracted to him. We would talk all the time, I would send him a random text message here or there (VERY sparingly though) and just yank his chain when he would come into the office- but nothing sexual, just picking on him and joking lightly. One week he went on vacation, and I sent him a text to say that I missed him and hoped he would come back soon. Within 30 minutes, his office manager was calling my cell phone reminding me that he was "sitting in meetings all week" and that he wanted to "make sure we were on the same page". I figured he didnt feel the same way I did, so I let it go but we of course stayed friends. We talked about it and he told me that there was "a line there" because I was his client. Then a few weeks ago, I pulled him aside to make sure I wasnt making him feel uncomfortable when he was around me, and he got really quiet and told me that if I wasnt married, he would ask me out. Ok... so I am extremely confused. One month he wants to make sure we are on the same page (and doesnt even have the guts to call me himself and tell me) then the next he tells me he would ask me out if I were single. On my birthday, he surprised me with a VERY expensive gift to do something I had always wanted to do (which of course I never expected and felt horrible about). Recently, we went to dinner together, as friends. I wasnt able to eat all of my food, so there was a half eaten piece of sandwich left on my plate. He stared at me, took the sandwich off the plate, and eats it himself (we are close, but not to the point where i would have felt comfortable eating HIS leftover sandwich) and goes "THIS IS YOUR BREAD" and continues to stare at me while eating it slowly. Weird, right???? I dont know what the hell that was all about. We hug a lot, and recently he has taken to kissing me on the cheek when he says goodbye, along with a hug. I just dont know what to make of it honestly. This guy has been thru a terrible divorce about 10 yrs ago, I dont know if hes just lonely and finds comfort in my friendship or if he is looking for something more. I know the age difference thing will freak a lot of people out, but really i dont even see that when we're together. I care a lot about him and the last thing I am seeing is his age. I am really just looking for some insight into a male mind before I get too involved. Any ideas????
carhill Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Is the loss of your professional relationship an issue to your security and/or career? If no, go with the flow. I assume you're both single. He is aware that you're no longer married, correct?
Author iwonderwhyme Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 well i would like to keep the professional relationship as well. And he knows that I was unhappy in the marriage, but I have not told him about it being over. Sometimes he says things out loud before thinking and I dont want everyone at my work asking me about it considering its none of their business. The time will come for me to tell him sooner or later, I'm just waiting until its right. Its a touchy subject considering I'm a very private person.
signedin2008 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Didn't you post the same questions/problem last year? I am confused....are you still married?
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