blondesmiler Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 (I am single & live alone, the friends I am referring too are not and have a child each.) Only seem to want to know you when your happy and on top form but quite happy to talk about their problems. or that are in constant contact when they need to talk to someone and help but when you do, they don't seem to want to know and make excuses to leave or get off the phone. That blow you out last minute, then moan because they haven't seen or heard from you, like its all your fault and down to you. Do not seem to respect that you might not be able to see them at the drop of a hat always, that sometimes you might require some days notice because you actually made plans to go out and have some fun rather than stay in.
cresentcrow44 Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 If I may be so bold here, they don't sound like real friends at all. Have you tried to talk to them about your feeling on this? If so, did they try to make it up to you? If they blew you off when you try to speak to them then...If I were you Id distance myself from them, doesn't mean cease all contact but I would defiantly make some new friends. That's the entire point of friendship give and take, not just take. Good Luck.
Tony T Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 The world is filled with selfish, self centered people. Get used to it. Thoughtful, considerate people are a rare breed these days. It's really sad.
Honest2Bob Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Well, it seems that they do not respect that although you live by youself and do not have kids you still do have a life. I guess it might be time for that conversation with them. It's not that they do it on purpose (maybe) it's just that they might assume that since you are single and childless you have the time of the world.
monkey00 Posted March 1, 2009 Posted March 1, 2009 That's life. I've had my times with people like that. Just choose your friends wisely and who you associate with.
Author blondesmiler Posted March 1, 2009 Author Posted March 1, 2009 Well, it seems that they do not respect that although you live by youself and do not have kids you still do have a life. I guess it might be time for that conversation with them. It's not that they do it on purpose (maybe) it's just that they might assume that since you are single and childless you have the time of the world. Thats exactly how I think they think!! Sometimes I think they are being nice with calling up at last minute because they think I might be stuck for something to do but when it becomes more and more frequent, and then surprised that I am doing something it can be annoying. But the friend that blew me out in Jan, tried to call me in Feb I forgot to call back she called again a week later leaving a message "where are you, I haven't heard from you in ages, you didn't return my call" and I am like well you blew me out in the morning of the day we were meant to be going out for the day (which did mean I was left hanging with nothing too do and I did get really down that day), and I am meant to be chasing you. Just annoys me sometimes.
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