Trialbyfire Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 Happy is relative. You could say more than 50% of the married couple here are unhappy because they end up divorcing. (And I dont think they are happy about divorcing). And same thing applies to couples who got together in an arranged marriage. I dont know if it matters how you got there...though you can argue vehemently on that....arranged or via hollywood movie style....it falls on the couple to commit and sustain the relationship. There is where almost all the marriages fall short of being truely a happy and successful marriage. (yes this includes most arranged marriages too). Not many make it there. Because it takes lot of work and commitment to get there and stay there. Not easy but can be done. So if they do fall short, can they fall short in such a manner as to minimize the impact ? Either continue living in a bad marriage and prey that it gets better or divorce. Unfortunately, divorce is the one that has maximum impact. Better to freely choose your partner, in that the vast majority of the marriage is happy, rather than be forced to sleep, live and bear the children, for some stranger chosen by your parents.
LovieDove24 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 It's how people are. They want love and companionship. But finding real compatibility is a crap shoot. It's how it's always been. It wasn't better when marriages were more stable. Those people weren't better at keeping relationships together. They just didn't have nearly as much choice. I think this is the first time I've ever agreed with Johan but he's absolutely right on the mark here. Real compatibility is what its all about. I can say I have ONE friend in all my hundreds and hundreds of friends I've met over the years that I'm truly compatible with and I'm proud to say we've been friends for over 20 years! (And we're only 24!) Now considering we are not able to date hundreds and hundreds of people, it stunts our ability to find TRUE compatiblity. You may get lucky on the first, fifth or tenth one but its not always that easy. And some people just get tired of all the looking, waiting and dating games and just settle for "Mr. Good" and give up on finding "Mr. Wonderful." Which is sad because I truly believe there IS a Mr or Mrs Wonderful for everyone.
LovieDove24 Posted February 27, 2009 Posted February 27, 2009 And TBF if you're not gonna flaunt that gorgeous ring at us at least put back up that sexy dark man
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