weird_geek Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 i met this guy on lavalife last night around 8pm.. the both of us exchanged pictures and decided to hang out for a bit.. for we had no plans! we met around 10 pm... for coffee... he is a very cute looking guy... moved to toronto from vancouver a month ago or so... he is very intelligent too! he kept complimenting me throughout the night saying how pretty i was and that he was pleasantly surprised.. i could smell wine... so i asked if he had it.. he said he usually has a glass of red wine with his dinner and he did have it before coming out! anyway.. long story short.. the date went well.. and it was 11:10 when i decided to leave.. he agreed and we both stood up... BUT right when i stepped out.. he grabbed me and started kissing wildly! i was so confused as to WHAT THE HELL was just happening and i had to pull away for we were still at the door step! i said "let's at least get out of here" and then he held my hand and said "lets go for a walk" i couldnt believe him and i said i wanted to go home for it was getting late and i was tired after the long day... he said "okay sure.. we will take u to the subway... but i was hoping if you could come to my place.. " and then kissed again .... and we parted! this morning.. he sent me a message saying he had a great night out and would like to see me again.. this time for dinner! i liked the guy but hated how he kissed like there was no tomorrow... to which he also said.. hey .. my kiss tells you that i am very interested.. (yes i had told him i wasnt expecting him to kiss... was kinda scary how he grabbed me) what i want to know is.. is he really desperate and wants to get into my pants ONLY? or this is how men show interest if they happen to like their date!.. PS: im very new to dating!
confused and broken Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Sounds like a RED RED flag He wants in your pants and is unappropriated at that Im sure this dude is carrying around a slew of stds Lavalife has lots of boys so keep hunting
gopher Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 I agree with the above poster....he had no respect for you.
Author weird_geek Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 yes... and before we parted he was trying to be very gentle.. and kissed nicely.. maybe his TRICKSSSS!!! plus he said it was his first date with someone he met online.. after breaking up last yr with his gf in vancouver! gosh! i still cant believe how he grabbed and kissed me!
crfsti Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 yeah, he sounds pretty desperate and not much of a gentlemen. make sure to keep your guard up!
tkgirl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 This guy moved waaaay too fast... you were basically strangers! do NOT go out with him again. The online thing can be weird... a lot of people (not just guys!) basically just looking to "hook-up" and that's about it.. please be careful is all I can say.... wow, I feel old now...
tkgirl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 yes... and before we parted he was trying to be very gentle.. and kissed nicely.. maybe his TRICKSSSS!!! plus he said it was his first date with someone he met online.. after breaking up last yr with his gf in vancouver! gosh! i still cant believe how he grabbed and kissed me! and I don't believe for one second that was his "first date with someone he met online" eeeww... he gives me the creeps and I don't even know him!
Author weird_geek Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 also... he was so cute.. who would have thought... i would have loved to meet him.. BUT.. thankyou guys! so now what? he also sai dhe would call me.. do i just not pick up? or tell him i aint interested.. i mean hes creepy! and he has my number! dammit! i also remember telling him he was way too fast, tkgirl.. and he said.. hey i always go after what i like... WEIRD!
tkgirl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 also... he was so cute.. who would have thought... i would have loved to meet him.. BUT.. thankyou guys! so now what? he also sai dhe would call me.. do i just not pick up? or tell him i aint interested.. i mean hes creepy! and he has my number! dammit! i also remember telling him he was way too fast, tkgirl.. and he said.. hey i always go after what i like... WEIRD! uh oh.. he could be a tough one to shake.. and if he was blessed with some good looks then he could have the ego to match and might not take the word "no" too well.. like he won't believe it. BTW, and I know you know this... but having good looks does not give him the right to act like a total idiot.... although he may get away with it sometimes... but not with you!
Author weird_geek Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 of course not !!! i wont let him! i was appalled! im scared now.. dont feel like trying this online dating scene anymore
tkgirl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 yea.. the online dating thing.. been there! Actually, my experience with it has been quite interesing.. the first guy I decided to go out with from match is still in my life! over a year later... very cute, very sweet... there are times when I think I really could be in love with him, but things haven't always gone so smoothly and we are still figuring out what we are doing... but he's an awesome guy and I'm so glad I met him regardless... so don't give up hope! There are great guys out there... just got to screen them a little more... but it's not like you knew when you went out with him that he was going to maul you in the exit of a coffee shop! LOL.. sorry, but look at it as a learning experience and just move on.. good luck!
BobSacamento Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 That's what I hate. One massive tool ruins it for the rest of us gentleman. Also I can't believe you went out with him after 1st contact. Uusually it's like pulling teeth.
sid3 Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Meeting him the same night may have appeared desperate/ looking to hook up in his mind. That's not to say that had you emailed back and forth for a week or two things would have ended up differently. He sounds like a creepy dude. Maybe he's really a nice guy. IDK.. It's possible he had more wine than he admitted to. That's not an excuse, just a possible reason he was so aggresive.....I can't imagine kissing someone the same night I met them, cootie factor is just too high.Imagine if this guy gave you the herps:confused:. It's not for me to judge, it just seems a lot of guys ruin their chances of getting a second date because they can't keep their tongues in their mouths. Different strokes for different folks I guess.
princess Linda Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 i'm telling you: THIS GUY IS BAD NEWS! he sounds disrespectful and down-right arrogant. move on to a new guy* dates aren't supposed to go like that.. not the kind that you want to have foundation to a relationship with anyway. btw: did he pay? b/c if not that's a whole other story.. chivalry isn't dead.. and neither is respect. find another guy who believes this & you'll be fine! good luck & have fun! not sex on the first few dates! ug* watch out for losers* they'll tell you one thing & then do another! keep your blinders on girl & you'll be fine! XO
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