dgbt Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Hi everyone, so i'm having a bit of a problem with this girl that ive been seeing for a while. like we've only started going out a few weeks ago but it seems like things are a bit weird right now. basically to fill you in, im a 3rd year in college and i'm on this recreational rowing team at my school. i met this girl that i really like and im pretty sure she likes me back. we've gone on a few dates already....including a date on valetntine's day where she invited me to stay at her place for a while after the date. so i know that sounds like things are going well and all....but today was kind of awkward between us for some reason. so basically, after our valentine's day date last weekend, she has been texting me pretty much everyday and stuff like that and it was all good. but today at practice, it seemed like she didnt want to talk to me. when i said hi to her she acted awkward and didnt really make eye contact with me and instead started chatting it up with a guy standing right next to me. i could tell she wasnt really into him cuz she kept looking back at me every once in a while to see if i was looking but seriously...whats the deal? when we first started going out (only like a couple weeks ago) she couldnt take her eyes off me and i would always catch her staring at me. but now it almost seems like she makes the effort to ignore me as much as possible. is this some kind of game that women play? actually, to makes things even more awkward, i was supposed to go with her to a basketball game tonight at our school, but seeing that she didnt want to talk to me i couldnt really bring it up. any ideas why she was acting this way? has she "lost interest" in me after only one week even though we have been texting each other like everyday? (we didnt see each other during this week so i thought she would be happy to see me today finally. apparently this was not the case). any advice would be deeply appreciated! thanks!
confused and broken Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 If you like her at all you made the absolute wrong move by not bringing up the basketball game... You said she is texting you are you texting her back? Are you initiating any of the texts are you phoning her This is totally normal She is backing up to make sure you really dig her To show her that you like her you need to make a move call her step in when she is talking to other boys Initiate and don't stop Of course she likes you thats obvious What you are not making obvious to her is weather or not you like her back
Author dgbt Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 i would do the things you said....but i've also heard things like: "girls dont like guys that get jealous over small things like this or are clingy and need the girls attention all the time" i thought i was doing the right thing by ignoring her when she tries to make me jealous and show that i'm not affected by these games. am i doing the wrong thing?
confused and broken Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 You don't have to go overboard... But just sometimes let her know She lets you know by texting you ect Call her once Interrupt her once watch her body language Trust me she'll like it shes begging for attention
tkgirl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 I'm not a fan of the "game" myself... it's like you have to be a frikkin mind-reader or something. I say just ask her! Something like "is everything ok? things feel a little awkward with us lately" or something like that. To me it seems souns like she does really like you, but isn't sure how you feel... so just talk to her instead of all this acting and guessing stuff... know what I mean? Ugh.. unfortunately I know all to well what this is like.. not fun!
calazhage Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 If he asks her, what are his chances of getting a straight and honest answer?
prettybaby Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Don't ask her what's wrong! That will make things even more awkward. The girl just probably isn't sure whether you really like her or not. Act as if everything's cool. Ask her out to the game, and don't be a doormat.
norajane Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Why didn't you make any effort to see her after Valentine's Day? Why did you wait to run into her at practice? If you aren't going to make the effort to ask her out, she's going to think you're not interested and will back off.
tkgirl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Don't ask her what's wrong! That will make things even more awkward. The girl just probably isn't sure whether you really like her or not. Act as if everything's cool. Ask her out to the game, and don't be a doormat. what's wrong with just asking her? I mean, yeah... he does have to play it a bit cool with the way he words things... maybe something like "are we cool?" and then quickly ask about the b-ball game or something like that. But I'm all in favor of real honest communication vs. the acting and guessing stuff... Like how can they have any sort of "relationship" or even a friendship at this point if they can't even talk to each other?!!
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