beautiful_stranger Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Okay, I've brought up the topic of "what we are" with this guy i've being seeing once a week since I couldnt stand the murky feeling of not knowing what we are doing anymore... and in response, he almost avoided the question, by saying things such as "you are the hunter and I am the prey" (since i went after him.. i know he's just being playful but arrogant no? )... he also added, its a question that most guys dislike... however, it seems he agreed that we are dating, and he's not seeing anybody else.. so basically I felt I didnt get much out of this not-so-much relationship talk. The thing is we've been "dating" say for two months? how long should dating last until it becomes a relationship for it to be healthy? surely if you "date" for too long, things tend to become stagnant, and one or both parties will feel drained?
Still Trying Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 it depends on interest levels. For me if I'm "seeing" someone and I'm not that interested I'll keep my options open and keep the relationship open - it's likely that I'll never want an exclusive deal w/ that person. After two months you can bank that he's "just not that into you" - what do you want from him? Do you want an exclusive relationship? If he's being elusive it's a "nice" way of saying "no thanks" - I'd move on. After my second date with my GF I made it very clear that I was only interested in seeing her. With other people I've just been going for a fling, or sex and kept things light and easy. Make your intentions clear. If he doesn't share the same interest level, move on.
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