purecountry Posted October 3, 2003 Share Posted October 3, 2003 Here's the situation. One of my best friends just broke up with this guy. I work with her and talk to her almost everyday. We are really close and she tells me everything which is fine because she is a great friend. She is really upset about breaking up with the guy even though he treated her like crap when they were going out. But I hate to see her upset. She has talked to the guy and he always cries and i think he does it so she'll feel sorry for him and start dating him again. She doesnt want him back but when he cries she starts thinking about it to make him feel better. She asks me about the whole situation and I try to comfort her but I dont want to tell her what I think because it might come off sounded bad. I used to like her as more than a friend and I've gotten over it for the most part but I dont know if anyone told her cause if someone did she might think I said those things because I'm jealous. So should I continue to stay out of it? Its not really any of my business but it bothers me to see her upset and knowing that she might put herself back in that situation bugs me. Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted October 3, 2003 Share Posted October 3, 2003 Under the circumstance I think you could perhaps say something like, "it seems like you're pretty comfortable with the decision to break up, and you only doubt yourself when you have to see him crying and miserable. You can't let that manipulate you into doing something you don't want. If you get back together with him it should be because you want to, not because it would appease him." But since you were once interested in her yourself, it's probably best to not volunteer your opinion. Be restrained and only tell her what you think if she asks you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author purecountry Posted October 3, 2003 Author Share Posted October 3, 2003 Thats how I saw it. Thats I haven't said anything more and I felt it was the right thing to do but I thought I'd see what other people think. I'm not really good at this stuff so. Thanks for the response. Link to post Share on other sites
Author purecountry Posted October 5, 2003 Author Share Posted October 5, 2003 Well, she ended up going back to him because she didnt want to hurt him. She asked me about it and I told her, she isnt mad at me but know she's back in a hurtful relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
fvlball54 Posted December 30, 2005 Share Posted December 30, 2005 well, i'm gonna go ahead and say, yes!, get involved. it sounds like you have gotten over her for the most part. if she asked you, you should answer from your heart. tell her how you feel, and if she finds out that you like her, i guess there is no harm there, she will then have to decide what to do with your feelings for her. stop being the nice guy, and tell her what you feel. u will never get anywhere in life if you dont take chances. love is a leap, so go ahead and jump. Link to post Share on other sites
fvlball54 Posted December 30, 2005 Share Posted December 30, 2005 alright, looks like i didnt read the rest of the comments. but see, if you took the advice of that guy, i didnt get u anywhere did it? and the girl is back in that dumb relationship and now u will have to live with that all over again. but, u did what u were comfortable with. it takes alot of guts to throw everything on the line. Link to post Share on other sites
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