isabellafinch Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Okay...so I dated this wonderful guy for about 6 months, we broke up about 3 months ago. He broke up with me because he feels like its a bad time for him to be in a relationship. Ever since though, nothing much has really changed. We still hang out 4 to 5 times a week, we still hook up and have sex. Is there any hope that we could get back together, is there anything I should do to insure that this happens? I am still very much in love with him. Or is it a lost cause and I should just move on?
anne1707 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 So you see him several times a week and have sex but that is not a relationship? I must be getting old.... Either that or he is just using you until he finds something better and you need to get out of this situation now.
Lizzie60 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Is there any hope that we could get back together, is there anything I should do to insure that this happens? I am still very much in love with him. Or is it a lost cause and I should just move on? Nope.. no hope at all.. why would he go back to a full swing relationship.. when he has everything he needs.. The longer you will be FWB.. the least probable you'll go back to the type of relationship you want. I think he has what he wants.. so if you're not happy with this arrangement, you need to move on.. it's that simple... there is no choice here.
burningashes Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Yep, the other posters are right. The adage, "Why buy the cow if you get milk for free?" applies here. He's not going to want to be in a relationship with you for as long as you guys continue to be FWB's. He has absolutely no reason to, he gets to sleep with you and hang out with you without being in a relationship with you. With that being said, you need to leave for your own sake because he will let this continue for as long as you let it. You don't have a choice.
gopher Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 If you really want a potential relationship with him, you must do what he initially did to you. Tell him, that this is a really bad time for you to be in a relationship, and that you cannot see him anymore. If he truely care about you, this may shake him into seeing what he is losing. My gut though tell me that he is enjoying the sex and doesn't want the emotional responsibiility that comes with a relationship.
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