stepka Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 It wasn't even supposed to be a date--we started a conversation in the health club and it was interesting, so when he asked me to go to Applebee's the next afternoon after work I thought why not--let's continue the conversation. We had a very nice time, but as soon as we left to go to our cars, he attacked me in the parking lot with lots of tongue thrusting kisses and wanted me to come to his place and told me that he knew he was going to fall in love with me. Yeah right buddy. Now he keeps calling and I guess I'll have to be a b%$ch to him, though I hate being forced to that. I guess I'm not really ready for this--my husband moved on very quickly after he told me he was gay, but I don't think I'll be ready for a while. Anyway, he seemed such a nice and intelligent man--how do you learn to screen these guys? Maybe I'm not a good people-reader--how do you learn?
Island Girl Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 he attacked me in the parking lot with lots of tongue thrusting kisses and wanted me to come to his place Ugh! That is sooooooooo GROSS! I HATE guys that can't kiss. Especially when they do not know how to use their tongue! Lizard Lickers, Tonsil Cleaners, Drool Dumpers, etc. They need to know they CAN'T kiss. That it isn't sexy, attractive, OR welcomed. BLECHT!! And now he is blowing up your phone. GREAT! My skin would be crawling. And YES Miss Beyotch would make an appearance that he'd never forget (and he wouldn't want to encounter her again!).
sid3 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 he attacked me in the parking lot with lots of tongue thrusting kisses and wanted me to come to his place and told me that he knew he was going to fall in love with me. YUCK! That's just nasty. I'd go the B*tch route. He's one creepy dude. You know he's not a player, cause his game is weak:lmao:
Author stepka Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 YUCK! That's just nasty. I'd go the B*tch route. He's one creepy dude. You know he's not a player, cause his game is weak:lmao: You're right about that--he acted desperate. Well, if he calls again, I will definitely be a wicked b*tch.
sid3 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 You're right about that--he acted desperate. Well, if he calls again, I will definitely be a wicked b*tch. You should be polite first. A simple rejection is usually enough...You don't know this guy, and the fact is you never know what people will do. He may like women who treat him like sh*t and act like total b*tches..it could encourage him to chase.There are a lot of nut jobs out there. It's a pretty clear sign that this guy is absolutely clueless. If a woman was telling me she was going to fall in love with me on the first date, I'd run for the pepper spray.
Touche Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Anyway, he seemed such a nice and intelligent man--how do you learn to screen these guys? Maybe I'm not a good people-reader--how do you learn? You just DID screen him. You knew after ONE date only that he's nuts. If you ask me that's pretty good. I mean what is dating really for but to screen, right. You did just fine. NEXT!
jerbear Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Anyway, he seemed such a nice and intelligent man--how do you learn to screen these guys? Maybe I'm not a good people-reader--how do you learn? I'll have to go with Touche's post. You did screen him and he didn't pass. You just DID screen him. You knew after ONE date only that he's nuts. If you ask me that's pretty good. I mean what is dating really for but to screen, right. You did just fine. NEXT!
V.Vixen Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Ohhhh, no. I have been there. The walk to the car and then tongue down the throat approach. Not cute. You screened him alright. Don't even bother being a bitch, just let him know you aren't interested, then ignore him if he persists.
socialight Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 >>he asked me to go to Applebee's This was your first red flag.
confused_2008 Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 >>he asked me to go to Applebee's This was your first red flag. Why?
gopher Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Some guys are clueless...there is plenty of time for kissing, but on the first date you are better off waiting if there is the slightest doubt. It's highly unlikely that a guy won't get a second date JUST because he didn't kiss the girl. But, this is the second thread I've seen tonight where a guy went overboard. Question though...How old was this guy?
tkgirl Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 >>he asked me to go to Applebee's This was your first red flag. :lmao:
Author stepka Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 You should be polite first. A simple rejection is usually enough...You don't know this guy, and the fact is you never know what people will do. He may like women who treat him like sh*t and act like total b*tches..it could encourage him to chase.There are a lot of nut jobs out there. Yes, a simple rejection should be enough, but the other night when he called, I hung up on him and he called back! Then I hung up on him again and he didn't call back yet, but I'm betting that he will. The man was 50--just a few months older than I am. Old enough to know better, you'd think. He was a therapist with the army for years--now I'm worried about our poor soldiers. Yes, you guys are right--I guess I did screen him and I met him in a public place for safety, so I guess I was alright--I do wish I hadn't given him my phone number though.
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