Peter_pan Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted on another topic and it got me thinking. I havnt in my 21 years ever asked a girl out. well one but when i was like 14. anyway. Is this strange? Ive just realised Id rather keep quiet than bother to ask them out, i figure if there into me it would be obvious and therefore obvious for me to ask them out. I mean I can handle rejection, but i dont like facing it, i know thats sounds weird lol do you know what im saying? I met this amazing girl at a friends party, she is out of my league in terms of looks but in my league as to "the type" of girl she is. i.e down to earth. however my friends mate lived with her and he told my mate that she is frigid and a guy took her on 3 dates and got no where, i think he said he tried to kiss her and she pulled away. or something to that effect anyway point is, do i go and start asking all the girls i am attracted to out on a date> ? or is this creepy and wrong
BobSacamento Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 If you want date women. In my experience as much as us men hate rejection the majority of women hate it 100 times more. I am a firm believer in the quantity over quality in the first stages of dating. In my eyes planning, sizing up and putting all your energy in one woman is just a waste of time. She could be hot but totally nuts. I've learned that the hard way.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 yeh im with you on that one buddy. oh how ive learnt... ok so ask away then lol. whats the best line to use, fancy going for a drink? hang out?
V.Vixen Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 I think when you are younger you can get away with not asking a girl out as much. you meet them through friends and start talking and the rest just falls into place. Once you get a little older, people become more busy, and women won't just assume you want to date them. Start practicing now, because you are going to have to ask a girl out if you want to go out with her.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 ok thanks yeah your right it does just fall into place. ha you wont believe what just happened, i phoned this swedish girl i got on well with at a friends party, she said she was going to a friends house to watch a film right now. so being a gentle man i said oh ok i'll call you another time, then she said ok bye straight away ... lol so i go onto face book, she is online so i said hello and sorry for calling at a bad time yesterday how are you, she put heyhey so i put >> alright she then comes out with >> I dont mean to be rude but I think it is best that u dont call me so i said >> right ok. wats wrong lol have i offended u in anyway (ive called her once before, and we talked for 30 minutes and was nice she seemed like a nice girl ! ) she said >> why would you call me? i said >> Its ok, I wont phone you if thats what you want. I was just being friendly. :S sorry! she said >> as I said I dont mean to be rude i said dont worry bout it, i call lots of people thats what friends do.. anyway sorry and take care she said >> ok byee women . lol, i think the language barrier dosnt help. and for some reason my mate said they were with her in his mates flat and they said to her sorry if my mate (me) was being a dick head comming on to you, she didnt understand, she said hes a dickhead? this bad? they said no no dont worry lol, dick head is good! she said, oh dickhead good i dunno random as! maybe i shouldnt have phoned. i was just tryin to get to know her you know. i find it funny but at the same time she made me feel pretty ****e! im not going to take it to heart but meh!
Surfer Dude Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 She's dumb and disrespectful. I'd next her immediately. Delete her number. The fact is, most women are receptive and don't blow you off like this. You just had bad luck bro. Meet others
Els Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Was it she who gave you her number or did you get it from some source unbeknownst to her? If it is the former, she seriously has some stuff to sort out in her head. If it's the latter, it's hard to take, I know, but she has every right to do so and she was trying to be polite about it.
Author Peter_pan Posted February 22, 2009 Author Posted February 22, 2009 ok cheers guys. yeah elswyth, she gave me her number and facebook at the party. so i called her the first time the next week and we talked it was nice. she was really into me. dancing with just me in the lounge etc. (at the house party) she even got me to fix her bracelet and was happy happy with me. and yeh surfer i have deffo next'd her i mite even delete her from fb, i shudnt put up wiv crap like that.
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