feedyourhead Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Hey all i'm new to the forum and just needed some advice. I recently finished school and just got over a pretty bad case of social anxiety and chronic depression. I'm doing pretty well now and have got a steady job and not really suffering from my previous conditions. Well, as you can imagine, with such disorders I never really asked any girls out. There was one girl in year 12 which I talked to a bit and had a crush on but when I finally admitted my feelings it was too late. Any other girls which I have had relationships have been ones where the girl has come to me, and with social anixetyI screwed up numerous chances. Well, everday on my way to work I pass this girl, and she is gorgeous, I get butterflies just looking at her. I've been told in the past by quite a few girls I am fairly attractive, so i'm sort of confident on that side of things. Most of the time when I walk past we exchange glances for a few seconds, so i'm assuming that's a good thing? Well anyway, I really wanna ask her out, but i'll admit it i'm scared. So basically I want to know how I should do it? I don't really know what to do, since i've had no experience, and I don't wanna make myself look stupid. I was thinking of saying hello, how are you, then asking a few questions like what school/year you in, doing exams? etc. get a little conversation, and if she responds positively asking her if she wanted to have lunch or something. So could you guys/girls help me out? I honestly don't know what to do and it's really bugging me. Anyone got tips for overcoming the feirce anxiety that will plague me if I ever go through with this, and how I can keep myself confident and calm while talking to her? I just want some tips on what I should do to increase my chances of getting a yes. Thanks alot for any help, it's greatly appreciated.
Peter_pan Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 they say ask 30 random girls for there number and see how many reject you. you might be surprised. talk to many other girls before this one, you dont want her to be the test, but obviously striking up a convo with her would be a great idea. just dont ask her for lunch the first time you talk. i think most girls would find that a bit odd? to be honest i havnt really asked many girls out, in fact i havnt asked one. so i should really swallow my own advice and get out there. its now or never
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