Stevie B Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 This girl broke up with me around New Years. About 10 days ago I sent her a text saying that I was going to send her a letter very soon. She responded: Whats in the letter? I told her there were things I feel need to be said. (Well, I never sent the letter yet cause I haven't finished it yet) 5 days later she sends me a text stating: "I never got the letter sweetie" I responded back that I wasnt finished it yet and that I was on vacation down in Miami, South Beach over the Valentine Day weekend, I told her I guess one day I will get it to her. 5 hours later she sends me a text: "No worries, have a great time!! (This was Friday) I never respondeed back to her. On Monday, she sends me a text: "How is Florida" I just responded, I'm back home now" and that was it. On Tues she sends me a text: "How was it. How are u doing? P.S. She is seeing someone now, dont know how serious, but she thinks I dont know.
BCCA Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Sounds like she's interested...in being your friend. This sounds like someone with a guilty conciense that would like you to be 'cool' with her so she doesnt feel like a horrible person. Even if she was interested, shes with someone else, hasnt told you, and is still talking to you. How would you feel if you were this other guy? Do you like being a fall back plan? She wants her security net, guilt free. Thats all shes interested in, not reconciliation. Sorry to be the bearer or bad news
alphamale Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Is She still interested?. basically?? no...
Author Stevie B Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Thanks for your reply, it makes a lot of sense. But to give you an update, after her last text asking me "How was it (Fla) and how are you doing?" I responded to her that I was fine and told her a little about the trip. Well, if she just wants to make sure I'm okay with her to ease her guilt, why didn't she ever respond back to me. I did ask her how she was doing? No response from her. It doesn't sound like someone who wants to be on friendly level to ease her conscious
confused_2008 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Been there, bro. She's lining up other guys she has a higher interest in and keeping up the niceties to appease her guilt and have a texting buddy. Move on.
Lucky_One Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 She's a girl. She was curious to see what you were going to write her - was it going to go on and on about how beautiful, smart, sexy, intriguing she is, or were you going to blast her, or were you going to promise her the moon and a Tiffany ring to get her back. You obviously didn't care enough to send the letter (10 days?!?) and she obviously figures that you don't care about her, so why should she care about sending you some lame text back?
Joe Taylor Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I don't know.. I must have read that wrong, because for me I wouldn't automatically draw the conclusion to blow her off... How long were you together before the breakup? How much to you have invested? Maybe she's regretting her decision.. you'll tie the knot and live out your days together. It's hard for me to read into what's really going on in her head without knowing more about your past.. but if you care about her, explore it. I know I have regrets not being bold enough in the past.. If you care about her, turn on the charm and win her back. If you don't.. you have a friend. Does she have any cute girlfriends? My 2 cents.
prettybaby Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Can you explain to us what this messy "I'll send you a letter" crap was about? Heck, I'd be confused too if I still didn't get one by the end of the week. You basically put yourself in this blur now. You initiated contact about this weird letter thing, she responded, and the texting started. Why would you do this to yourself? And are you still interested in her, or what?
Author Stevie B Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Theres an update on the 3rd post. Pretty Baby, The letter isn't crap, this girl did some things that were really cruel to do to a person your dating, for one, she didn;t even have the guts to call me or see me to break things off, it was a text. I also revealed some minor, very minor baggage that I had to her before Christmas and she said she was fine with it. I wanted to let her know of this because I respected her and gave her a chance to get out of the relationship then so that Christmas doesn't roll around and I'm giving her all these gifts and that she thinks I;m buying her love. Christmas rolls around and I spent close to 3 grand on this girl, yes, I really liked her and still do. The letter is about 14 pages long and I really took my time with it because i think she is worth the effort, there are some things in the letter that aren't so nice but still done in a gentlemanly way. The letter also includes the feelings I had for her. Joe Taylor We were seeing each other for about 3 months and everything was fine between us.
Lucky_One Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Fourteen pages long? Any chance you saw the Rock of Love segment where that psycho blonde wrote what's-his-name about 8 pages of wedding vows? No one wants to read anything that long. It was a three month dating relationship. Most of them fail - and for a reason. Shake it off and walk on.
Author Stevie B Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 She's a girl. She was curious to see what you were going to write her - was it going to go on and on about how beautiful, smart, sexy, intriguing she is, or were you going to blast her, or were you going to promise her the moon and a Tiffany ring to get her back. You obviously didn't care enough to send the letter (10 days?!?) and she obviously figures that you don't care about her, so why should she care about sending you some lame text back? If you saw the letter you would know I care
GorillaTheater Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Forget the letter and forget her. She treated you like crap and dumped you a week after getting $3K (!!!) worth of stuff you got for her. Go NC and move on. I don't want to get stuck on the $3K, but damn. Call me a cheapskate but this seems waaaay over the top to me. Are you sure you weren't trying to buy her love?
Author Stevie B Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Forget the letter and forget her. She treated you like crap and dumped you a week after getting $3K (!!!) worth of stuff you got for her. Go NC and move on. I don't want to get stuck on the $3K, but damn. Call me a cheapskate but this seems waaaay over the top to me. Are you sure you weren't trying to buy her love? No, I just have a big heart, always have, I spend the same amount on family too because I can afford it
prettybaby Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 What are you trying to achieve with this letter? Please don't send it to her. Stick it in your diary or something. You'll read those 14 pages full of whining in a year and you'll probably wonder "what was I thinking?" lol No girl is worth that kind of embarrassment. Seriously.
Lucky_One Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 If you saw the letter you would know I care The point is that it doesn't take 10 days (well, 13 days today) and 14 pages to let someone know you care. 14 pages is overkill when you don't mind taking two weeks to write your feelings to someone.
GorillaTheater Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 No, I just have a big heart, always have, I spend the same amount on family too because I can afford it Okay, I guess I'm hung up on the 3K after all. You bought her this stuff just three months into a relationship? Do you do the same thing for your friends? Hell, sign me up...
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