foxh1234 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I read a few threads today from a new member Superdave. Was I dreaming this ? They appear to be completely gone.
Author foxh1234 Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 Hi SSG, I really thought I dreamt it, lol. It was interesting reading, I wonder what happened ? BTW, How are you doing ?
LostLamb Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Glad if they were deleted. Talk about overkill or spam in disguise
Author foxh1234 Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 Glad if they were deleted. Talk about overkill or spam in disguise I didn't read much but I liked what I read. It must have been spam but it was well written IMO.
LostLamb Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 I didn't read much but I liked what I read. It must have been spam but it was well written IMO. The strange thing is he didn't post any links so not sure if it was spam. Maybe he was just pleased about his own healing and wanted to share a tad too much
sunshinegirl Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Hi Fox. How am I doing? Today, right now, not so hot (I'm sick). On the healing front? Reasonably good. I had not posted about this, as I didn't want to feed my obsessive side or get a bunch of people commenting and disagreeing on my take on things. But what the hell. This past week I hung out with married friends whom I met through the ex. On their refrigerator door, amongst dozens of photos of their friends, was a new photo of him on the beach - taken sometime last summer - wearing the sunglasses we picked out together in Key West last year. It was weird. I couldn't take my eyes off it. He didn't look good. He didn't look happy - his smile didn't reach his eyes - and he looks like he's lost weight (and not in a good way). I had always loved his strong chest and shoulders from climbing...and he's just not climbing much anymore. He looked almost spindly to me, with a bobble head. It wasn't him - certainly not the guy I was in love with and whose body I seriously lusted after for over a year. Upon chatting with this girlfriend, I learned a few things that have really helped put to rest that fear I had that he has moved on to a beautiful, happy new life and gives the hooch all that I never got from him. My friends said they were surprised when they met the hooch, wondering what he was thinking to dump me for her. It's possible she has a great personality but they didn't see much sparkle, or whatever. He doesn't bring her around much, he didn't include her in his family's Christmas festivities, he doesn't share anything of what's going on with him with these friends. My ultimate takeaway, right or wrong, is this: he has not changed. If anything, he seems to be putting even more barriers and walls up both with friends and with the hooch. I know this is self-serving, but I suspect that our dating relationship was one of the happiest times of his life. And I can't deny that I have taken some measure of consolation from it. I have started feeling really bad for him. I don't think he's happy, and more than that, I don't think he knows how to be happy. He's repeating his same patterns over and over and over. I wish I were a bigger person than to take satisfaction from another's apparent misfortune, but...I'm not. In other news, I am about to take a real dating hiatus and just focus on the rest of my life for a few months.
pushforward Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Actually SuperDave71 is well known among other boards for these topics and his take on healing. Not sure why they were deleted, but I can vouch for the guy. He's not a spammer, he was actually posting threads that he has compiled over the years. As many of us, he to was once heartbroken and got dumped, got back together, and found out it wasn't working. At the beginning of my breakup, his posts gave me a lot of hope and strength. Hopefully he isn't discouraged from posting again. His topics, before he deleted them on ENA were legendary.
Author foxh1234 Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 Hi Fox. How am I doing? Today, right now, not so hot (I'm sick). On the healing front? Reasonably good. I had not posted about this, as I didn't want to feed my obsessive side or get a bunch of people commenting and disagreeing on my take on things. But what the hell. This past week I hung out with married friends whom I met through the ex. On their refrigerator door, amongst dozens of photos of their friends, was a new photo of him on the beach - taken sometime last summer - wearing the sunglasses we picked out together in Key West last year. It was weird. I couldn't take my eyes off it. He didn't look good. He didn't look happy - his smile didn't reach his eyes - and he looks like he's lost weight (and not in a good way). I had always loved his strong chest and shoulders from climbing...and he's just not climbing much anymore. He looked almost spindly to me, with a bobble head. It wasn't him - certainly not the guy I was in love with and whose body I seriously lusted after for over a year. Upon chatting with this girlfriend, I learned a few things that have really helped put to rest that fear I had that he has moved on to a beautiful, happy new life and gives the hooch all that I never got from him. My friends said they were surprised when they met the hooch, wondering what he was thinking to dump me for her. It's possible she has a great personality but they didn't see much sparkle, or whatever. He doesn't bring her around much, he didn't include her in his family's Christmas festivities, he doesn't share anything of what's going on with him with these friends. My ultimate takeaway, right or wrong, is this: he has not changed. If anything, he seems to be putting even more barriers and walls up both with friends and with the hooch. I know this is self-serving, but I suspect that our dating relationship was one of the happiest times of his life. And I can't deny that I have taken some measure of consolation from it. I have started feeling really bad for him. I don't think he's happy, and more than that, I don't think he knows how to be happy. He's repeating his same patterns over and over and over. I wish I were a bigger person than to take satisfaction from another's apparent misfortune, but...I'm not. In other news, I am about to take a real dating hiatus and just focus on the rest of my life for a few months. Hi SSG, that is so strange because almost the same thing happened to me. A freind was showing me pics from a party on his FB account and there was my ex with her new BF. I don't know if you remember my story but I could have tried again with her but decided against it. Even though I turned her down, seeing her in the pic with someone else really stung and gave me a weird feeling. I know it's for the best but it still hurts, the way it went down. I, like you , envisioned her with her new BF living the great life and being happy. I think we all tend to glamorize our ex's lives, when in reality they are doing the same crap we are doing:laugh: I am also not going crazy dating, I have seen a few ladies, but nothing really great has happened. I think we will both find someone when we least expect it and when we have stopped worrying about it. Take care my friend and I hope to chat on here with you again.
Peter_pan Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 hmm unless they where moved? or maybe they were copied and pasted and redeemed as spam
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