Dollie Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I am so mad My ex just threw me away without even telling me we are over. He a couple of weeks later he then went and picked up with a girl 18 years younger and was persuing her whilst still with me. I have made a facebook name up and made friends with her and found out that she is just using him and she even said he was not very good looking but she is bored right now so he will do. She won't tell her friends or family about him as she is embarressed (well he is old enough to be her dad and has a son 2 years younger) she is crazy about this other guy who is not interested in her. I am going to stay friendly with this girl and when she blows him of he will be recieving a nice little print out in the post! Let him know how it feels to feel hurt and thrown away! Revenge is a dish best served cold!
blondesmiler Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 So not worth it, your only winding yourself up by doing that and being friends with her. What happens if she changes her status to say something like "cannot wait for our romantic weekend away" or "I've bought a whole load of new lingerie for my man" ~ its going to crush you if you read anything, even smaller than that. Your better forgetting about him, and her and getting on with your own life and making it great, that is the best revenge.
Adri Ana Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Revenge is good,true, I will teach you more : Get acquainted with a hot hot guy,seek him , you will find some,make a nice friendship with him, you need to try your best and you will succeed , then make your plan real . It will be a double impact for your ex
LostLamb Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I wouldn't if I were you. My ex started dating someone three weeks after we split so I know how much pain you are carrying around right now (they will probably end up marrying)but befriending his new girl will just prolong your pain. If you know she is using him just enjoy the fact that he will be dumped soon
BCCA Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 The best revenge is success. And no matter what she says, its all lip service if she's still seeing him. She may not think he's super attractive, but obviously he's doing enough to keep her around. And maybe he's just using her, too, and he wont even care if she bails. Or she could be one of a few. I agree, such a waste of time and energy. You would be better off spending that time meeting new people or working out.
Surfer Dude Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Revenge is a useless and destructive action based on primitive and negative feelings. It is best to use this incident for self improvement and get on with your life. Turn these feelings around into something positive. Revenge only leaves you emptier than before... Just look at Edmond Dantes!
kashmir Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Let me tell you something. I recently wanted to get back at a girl for cheating on me. I was able to obtain her university account password. I had the ability to go online and drop all of her classes, which would have caused HELL for her. I thought about it, but then I realized a better revenge would be just to forget her and be happy. So far it's working. Don't lower yourself to the other person's level. The best revenge is not hurting another person - it's forgetting them.
Author Dollie Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 I can't forget him or the way he dropped me like I was hot after 2 years! How could he just do this? I am so upset! I know I am wrong doing the facebook thing but I cannot help it, it makes me feel better to know the truth but I know it will make me feel really bad one day Do you think this will work out with him and her?
Author Dollie Posted February 24, 2009 Author Posted February 24, 2009 She has told me everything to her fake friend in Facebook and I have convinced her to break up with him! He has been with her for 7 months and we only split a month ago!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! with my help and encouragement she is off screwing her Jamaican ex as we speak! Now he will be alone, I feel for him! Job done! And that,my dear, is what you call CLOSURE!!! On a side note maybe I will send him the PM's and let him REALLY feel the fool he made of me?!?!?!?!? She is too embarrassed to tell her friends and family she is seeing him as he is twice her age and she said she is embarrassed about him hahha She has said that she is using him and she says jump and he says how high she has said so many horrible things about him and maybe I will show him!
socialight Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 make sure you thank this girl for separating you from a cheating loser. The above posters are right. As hard as it sounds, by far and away the best revenge is go be happy, successful, and enjoy life w/o him. If he ever calls, say "who?"
RouRou Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 ok but now what? You succeeded in destroying their relationship. What if he comes crawling back to you?! Will you take him back or just say goodbye, like you should have from the start...
reservoirdog1 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I understand the desire to get revenge. But the impulse is based on the expectation that, if you do it, you'll feel better. Chances are, though, you won't -- you'll feel worse. What you need to do when confronted with thoughts of revenge is to change your perspective. Remind yourself of the things you COULD have done, and how much power you secretly wield over him. (Somebody once said that power is when you have every justification to do something to somebody, and... you don't do it.) I remember dealing with my desire for revenge on the guy my XW had been screwing on the side, who'd pretended to be a friend. I thought about revenge many times. All I really did was send him a pretty nasty, expetive-filled letter telling him exactly what I thought of him, which I know he received. I don't regret sending it. But every time I encountered the desire to do something worse, especially something physical, I reminded myself that he was alive only because I HAD ALLOWED HIM TO LIVE. Yes, it's cheesy, and a lot of macho posturing. But, couple that with punching bag therapy at the gym, and it definitely helped. And now, 5+ years later, I don't give a damn about that cockroach, one way or another.
LostLamb Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I don't think she feels worse now she has spllit them up. I think she feels good
Author Dollie Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 I feel like I know the truth now That is what I wanted and now I can move on and KNOW what kind of a piece of crap he is!! I will not do anything with my knowledge, just move on (with a smile on my face) And no, I would never take him back!
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