dave275 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 So I went on a date last night which had gone very well- We ate at her favorite restaurant, went to a dance class, and then talked for about an hour after with her sitting on my lap. I had gotten her flowers and was going to do something romantic when I kissed her, but she seemed as if she was too nervous as soon as I started trying it. After I had walked her to my door later on she went in for the hug, and I asked her why she didn't want to kiss- she said that later on we could do that. On her way home I texted her asking her why, and she said that she had never been kissed. we're both in our early 20's and I like her, but I don't want to keep investing time in something that might never have an outcome. She wrote me a message on Facebook about how she felt so bad and everything, but she said that she loved the date and would definitely want to see me again. Does she need everything to be absolutely perfect or what? I just want to know what people out there think-Should I stick with it or does it seem hopeless as she might never feel comfortable with it?
Treasa Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 You've had ONE date I assume. Not everyone kisses on the first date. It's not like you've been dating for two years without getting any. Be patient.
Miss Ting Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Be patient and allow her to come around. It doesn't sound like you've been on a million dates with her and she's still refusing to kiss. IMO, you are over thinking it. Go out on some more dates with her, let her get comfortable and I'm sure it will all fall into place. Eventually, if all is well, she will want to kiss you even if she's inexperienced. Good luck.
ddraper Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 What may have happened is you came on too strong and therefore she felt awkward about everything. Ease up. Another issue that may have occurred is that you may have not broken the "touch barrier" soon enough. She has to trust you first and the easiest way to get a woman to trust you is through getting yourself past that barrier. Scientifically speaking, it creates an instant bonding element and stirs up those magical feelings of trust. Do not despair, she'll come around. She was already sitting in your lap.
V.Vixen Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Many first dates that I have don't end with a kiss. If they do, it is just because it came naturally and we both felt it at the moment. I wouldn't worry about it. I have even had the experience where there is no kiss until the 3rd date. Don't push it.. I am surprised you even brought it up... let things flow naturally and stop being pushy!
prettybaby Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 What the hell, dude? Way to put a ton of pressure on the poor girl right from the get go! A lot of people don't even kiss on the first date. And please: don't ever TALK about it BEFORE it has actually happen. It's a non-verbal thing, and you have to really sense your way through it. Be sensitive and compassionate. Asking is killing it, in my opinion. I'm surprised she's even still talking to you, but I guess the fact that she's never been kissed probably correlates with her still being quite naive about relationships. Any girl with self-respect and a little maturity would have been majorly turned off by the questioning and pushing. I mean, you EVEN texted her about it on top of it
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