How do you feel about an insecure partner and communication?

[jadelil25]

The situation:

 

I was abused by a family friend a few years ago and it took me a long time to get out of the situation because I was scared, nverous and thought people would think bad of me. I realise that I have a problem so I have been to the doctors and im on a waiting list for professional help as I realised that I do need help and to talk to someone.

 

The trouble is I also had a narsty break up last year and that is getting to me to. Im trying to be strong and do realise I need help but I sometimes get freaked, get depressed/upset or can get ill quite a lot.

 

If you partner was in this situation and they are seeking help how would you feel? Would it push you away or would you try to understand them and help them aswell as long as they realise they have a problem and are doing something about it? Would you care for them, try to make them happy, support them a bit?

Or do you feel that someone like this should not be in a relationship?

 

Really looking for your opinions on this.

 

Also how do you feel about communication with a partner who you dont see every day, just once or twice a week? How much communication do you feel is health and how much is too much? Is one or two calls/messages a day ok, or is that too much?

[cresentcrow44]

I would like to think I would be supportive and helpful any way I could. I can imagine the stress on both of you is difficult. Seeking help for it is a very responsible and healthy decision. It shows your inner strength.

As for the amount of communication? I don't know what is enough or what is too much. I think that is a thing you will have to figure out as the days pass. I mean, do you want more contact, or less? Have you tried to talk to your SO about this?