Butterfly01 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I've been NC for 8 days now and it has been a living hell -- but, I am standing strong. Last night I logged into Facebook -- I refuse to give up my friends and family on there just because of him -- but even though I had deleted him as a friend, someone posted some party pictures -- and there he was on my homepage with his new gf. It felt like my heart was ripped out of my chest. There he was holding her close and smiling. He looked amazing -- he looked happy. And to make things even worse, he had posted a comment on the picture that she is the "love of this life". They have been dating for 7 weeks ffs. I am right back to square one -- my emotions are all over the place and I just want to curl up and die right now. Is this how it is going to be from now on -- one step forward then 10 steps back?
Island Girl Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I am so sorry! That had to have been a shock. You say you have only been in NC for 8 days but they have been together for 7 weeks. So you knew of her already? How long has the romantic relationship been over? It wouldn't have stung so much if you had gone NC from the very beginning. It does get better with more time. 8 days just isn't enough time to really get in a different place.
Peter_pan Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 sorry to hear that , this is the exact reason i deleted all my things like myspace facebook etc. just couldn't handle it and risk that chance. so i wasnt on it for over half a year. then decided to pluck up the corrage to get on it again, i now have loads of friends on there and family. havnt seen a photo of her since. apart from the time i searched her name and her profile pic was her and him. but it didnt faze me tbh. im used to it lol/ but will admit the first time i saw it, i felt my heart beat very fast
Goatsbreath Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 don't curl up and die OK. I know it seems bad but It gets easier and seeing this must really hit it home for you, its over. Hope is not something to entertain. Sometimes its better to see the ugly truth for what it is and use it to fortify your resolve, march on, hold your head up and set your sites on another day, another time, and a different future.
dethfire Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 facebook is the devil after breakups. For me, I had to defriend most shared friends because they kept posting photos with her partying on the weekends and everytime I saw those photos my heart sank to the depths of the ocean. do the same, disconnect from him and his common friends so that doesn't happen again.
sad_panda Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 You have the option to get fewer story feeds from mutual friends. You can also block your ex so his comments on your mutual friends' posts will not be visible to you. I know it hurts...I went through something very similar. A couple of weeks after we broke up, I found out that he hooked up with a new girl just a few days after we separated. She is a coworker of his, and the irony of it all is that I introduced my ex to Facebook, and my ex introduced his new girl to it, and now Facebook is giving me hell with is frequent status updates and picture uploads. I removed him from my friends list, it's just that it's hard sometimes not to look, although I've managed not to look for more than a week now, almost two weeks in fact.
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 If you block him then anything that comes up picture wise about him more than likely won't be seen by you. Try it and see what happens..
Meaplus3 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 No more looking. It may be tough, but if you want to get over him ya can't look. Now is there anyway you an create a new FB account for yourself and direct your friends and family too it? Mea:)
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