DollWelch Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I don't know what to think, even though I just recently met him, and know very little about him. But something tells me, otherwise -although he seems like a nice guy. The only distinction I can't make is whether he is shallow, or actually has a great personality, beyond his good looks. I would like to get to know him better over time. But, I sense he's not into "getting to know each other" but rather to find someone for intimacy. For instance, he's been asking a ton of question about seeing more pictures of me. He knows how I look like, but isn't this a bit much? Paying more attention to physical looks as opposed to getting comfortable with each other's personality, is saying a lot about his shallowness. Right? Should I be tossing this guy to the curb? Or is it worth a shot?
ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 D.W. play it safe. If he is jumping for the boning, then he'll get rid of ya once he's done.
Geishawhelk Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Send him some pictures of you. Fully clothed of course, doing the gardening, going shopping, out with friends..... If he complains, tell him only the very priviledged few get more than that - and unfortunately - he's not amongst them......
DayDreamer75 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I agree with the others. I think you're being too analytical . Just take it slowly and if you enjoy this guy's company continue hanging out. I don't think that you should only continue relationships with guys who you think are the ones for you. Sometimes a great friendship may come out of it as well. Don't jump quickly to conclusions and don't fall in love without really knowing the person. So, relax.
Geishawhelk Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I agree with the others. I think you're being too analytical . Just take it slowly and if you enjoy this guy's company continue hanging out. I don't think that you should only continue relationships with guys who you think are the ones for you. Sometimes a great friendship may come out of it as well. Don't jump quickly to conclusions and don't fall in love without really knowing the person. So, relax. Have you posted in the wrong thread or something? This response makes no sense at all... he's out to screw her and he wants nude pic's of her.... What part are you not getting - ?!
DayDreamer75 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Geishawhelk, I usually love your posts. You are one of a smart lady. But this time, I don't really understand where between the lines have you read that he just wants to screw? She said that she does NOT know whether he's shallow or a great guy. She just senses things. The point is that most of the times we don't see people for who they really are and we make up our mind on their personalities based on our past experiences. Has she known him enough time to determine that he wants to screw her? I don't know. You probably know better. I have not seen that anywhere in her post. I don't understand why we always recommend people to be more egoistic, less outgoing and more closed in order to get hurt.
DayDreamer75 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Also, I did not see it anywhere that he asked for NUDE pics. Where I come from, asking for pictures of someone (unless he's really asking for nudity) is not considered an obscene act.
DayDreamer75 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 sorry, I meant to say: in order NOT to get hurt
Geishawhelk Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 .... But, I sense he's not into "getting to know each other" but rather to find someone for intimacy. For instance, he's been asking a ton of question about seeing more pictures of me. This guy is asking for things a guy wouldn't be asking for after meeting only 'recently'. This clangs alarm bells for me. Would you want to send a guy 'pictures' of you if you got the feeling he was just trying to meet someone for "intimacy".... What do you think 'Intimacy' means, here?
DayDreamer75 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 It might be cultural differences but I repeat, just because someone is asking for the pics, does not mean to me that he's looking only after the intimacy.
Geishawhelk Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Well.... we can only wait and see.... But it stinks, to me......
Treasa Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 It might be cultural differences but I repeat, just because someone is asking for the pics, does not mean to me that he's looking only after the intimacy. Then Geishawhelk's advice is still correct. She should give him pictures of her, fully clothed, doing mundane things.
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