nothappyjan Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I have been dating this guy since the start of jan. We were meant to go on our fifth date tonight and he cancelled via text about 3pm saying that he has been having bad headaches and can we re-schedule for sunday. The previous friday for our fourth date he texted me on the friday at 3pm also and told me he was sick and i was sympathetic that time and was happy to change to sunday but now I am a little angry, even if i had a headache i would have gone and i never would have cancelled two dates in a row. When i replied i made it clear i wasnt happy and told him it was cool if he didnt want to do anything but he insisted he still did and he just wanted to be well for our dates. He so far has been the one to initiate contact and plan the dates. We now have plans for sunday again and i just dont know if i should go?
Author nothappyjan Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 oh also I am 23 and he is 29 and we havent been very physical at all so far just hand-holding, hugs and cheek kissing haha
ddraper Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Seems like everything is fine. Do not worry about it. Go out on Sunday. Seems like he was legitimately sick. If he does cancel again, say to yourself, "That's it." Move on. He will come around when you stop talking to him and he won't cancel again.
2sunny Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 why Sunday? why did he not ask you out for Saturday? and is the original plan always set for Friday? maybe he already has a Saturday gal... and you are the Friday gal... the Saturday gal is usually the most prominent contender. so i'm wondering if you aren't Friday and he moved you to Sunday - then who's his Saturday gal? he probably has one. if that's the case then you are second choice. that may be why he has a headache... he's juggling women.
likestolaugh Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 why Sunday? why did he not ask you out for Saturday? and is the original plan always set for Friday? maybe he already has a Saturday gal... and you are the Friday gal... the Saturday gal is usually the most prominent contender. so i'm wondering if you aren't Friday and he moved you to Sunday - then who's his Saturday gal? he probably has one. if that's the case then you are second choice. that may be why he has a headache... he's juggling women. *sigh* maybe he already has plans for Saturday? With... you know, friends?
2sunny Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 *sigh* maybe he already has plans for Saturday? With... you know, friends? could be, could also be that his Saturday gal is getting more demanding and wants his Friday night too. if he had plans with friends - seems he would say something to that effect, or even invite you along. if you wonder - why not ask him? always better just to ask, that way there's no wondering. has he ever taken you out on Saturday?
carhill Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Nothing serious here and you're irritated. My advice would be to entertain the attentions of another gentleman, one who has his headaches under control
Author nothappyjan Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 yes the week before we went out on saturday night. Your right i'll ask him
2sunny Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Nothing serious here and you're irritated. My advice would be to entertain the attentions of another gentleman, one who has his headaches under control i love your logical and creative mind carhill!
carhill Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Hey, if I wanted to see a woman, I'd shoot up some Stadol and figure out a way. Seriously, can't speak for other guys, but, with the right woman, all my aches and pains go away, or at least I'm not conscious of them. That's a big deal when you get to be an old fart
Tony T Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 I have been dating this guy since the start of jan. We were meant to go on our fifth date tonight and he cancelled via text about 3pm saying that he has been having bad headaches and can we re-schedule for sunday. Maybe I'm just a bit old fashioned but I simply can't get over people doing stuff like this via text. Any day now, my doctor may text me and say how sorry he is about my blood work which came back and indicates I have a month to live. Oh, yeah, he may text me to come see him soon or something. Don't get invested in this guy and don't even wait for another call. Move on. ONLY one more chance as well. If he gets sick again that may be an indication he's a very sick guy.
2sunny Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 you could just opt out for Sunday, last minute, by text, headache on Sunday. that's just showing my mood of zero tolerance since reading so much of this same thing the past few days. must be something in the water - because it seems rampant.
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 even if i had a headache i would have gone Obviously you've not suffered from bad headaches or migraines. He isn't you so you say you wouldn't have cancelled twice, but he has. For good reason. It's not like he's blowing you off.
2sunny Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Obviously you've not suffered from bad headaches or migraines. He isn't you so you say you wouldn't have cancelled twice, but he has. For good reason. It's not like he's blowing you off. true - but she still hasn't a clue as to what his Saturday night plans are. if not Friday, why not Saturday? instead he offered up Sunday. my guess is she's not the #1 gal. just a shot in the dark though.
moman Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 true - but she still hasn't a clue as to what his Saturday night plans are. if not Friday, why not Saturday? instead he offered up Sunday. my guess is she's not the #1 gal. just a shot in the dark though. or maybe, since they have only went out a few times, he doesn't want to make her a Saturday night gal. I generally prefer to take ladies out during the week (Thursday is my fav) until I know them really well, and 4 dates is not sufficient time.
Author nothappyjan Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 or maybe, since they have only went out a few times, he doesn't want to make her a Saturday night gal. I generally prefer to take ladies out during the week (Thursday is my fav) until I know them really well, and 4 dates is not sufficient time. Also though we have known each other for 4 months before we went out for the first time. He has been msging me since he cancelled and he said he got a doc certificate for me, so maybe he really was sick, i get migraines and bad headaches so i understand that, but even if i was sick i would find a way to go if i actually really liked the person and had cancelled the week before haha
northstar1 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Also though we have known each other for 4 months before we went out for the first time. He has been msging me since he cancelled and he said he got a doc certificate for me, so maybe he really was sick, i get migraines and bad headaches so i understand that, but even if i was sick i would find a way to go if i actually really liked the person and had cancelled the week before haha Maybe I am just cynical here, and I hope it does work out, but if I'd cancelled last minute the Friday before, and I had a high interest in a girl, I'd do everything possible to make it out the next date, particulary if it's a weekend date. I'd not put too much stock in this one for now. Date other guys and see what happens
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