Illiandra Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Why dont you just call her and leave a voicemail? Maybe shes waiting for a phone call?? I hate when men just text instead of calling! Depends on where in NY you are talking about, if these chicks are from NYC, they have their options open. Remember its a big town with lots of guys and gals! Im a central jersey gal and dated a few men from NYC from match, they are all psycho i swear. Im not a guido loving chick either. I go for personality smarts and then looks Unfortunately when I was on match i had tons of emails and the men were just OK ,, had a few decent ones tho As for match, 2 of my co workers met their wife there, and 2 guys have met all crazy women. It just depends. My opinion is that meeting someone online is a bit of a task. You really dont know this person, so you have to put more effort into getting to know them. Get your butt back on match and start emailing more chicks Maybe this one is too busy with work, school x bf's who the hell knows...
Author ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 Why dont you just call her and leave a voicemail? Maybe shes waiting for a phone call?? I hate when men just text instead of calling! Depends on where in NY you are talking about, if these chicks are from NYC, they have their options open. Remember its a big town with lots of guys and gals! Im a central jersey gal and dated a few men from NYC from match, they are all psycho i swear. Im not a guido loving chick either. I go for personality smarts and then looks Unfortunately when I was on match i had tons of emails and the men were just OK ,, had a few decent ones tho As for match, 2 of my co workers met their wife there, and 2 guys have met all crazy women. It just depends. My opinion is that meeting someone online is a bit of a task. You really dont know this person, so you have to put more effort into getting to know them. Get your butt back on match and start emailing more chicks Maybe this one is too busy with work, school x bf's who the hell knows... I am on match daily. E-mailed about 25 or 30 so far. They all look at my profile as I have over a hundred views, but none reply back. The ones who wink at me, about 15 or so I am not attracted too or have a kid already. Not really looking for a woman with a five + old kid already. A kind reply or check mark no thanks would be at least decent of them. That is what i do. I guess I am asking too much of them. This area is tuff. The standards on the women are so high that they are untouchable. I am an decent looking guy, I think. Athletic, muscular have a good job, educated like f_ck. Respectful. Don't know. I do not e-mail them and say hey your cute. Let's bang. I read their pros ask them questions about them and start off from there. No dice and no luck. Batting a thousand here.
fishtaco Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 No exclusive talk. Just a meet. Said yes. Was going to text me after work. That was four days ago. I am playing a new game now. No more running after anyone. It will be whatever it will be. That new game is the game you should have been playing all along. You never run after anyone. As soon as you do that, you give up your control. When you give up control, you tend to become the back-up plan guy. This is just basic human interaction. Even in non-dating scenarios. If I can push you into being the designated driver every time we go out drinking, and you just kind of do it, then you'll end up driving every single time. If you don't want to be the back-up plan guy, then don't accept it. If you don't want to be the guy running after women and wasting your resources for very little return, then don't accept it. Also, I don't know about pay dating sites, I'm on a couple of non-pay ones. Women have all the control on those sites. I tried it for a bit, lurked and ask questions on their forums to figure out the system, and I realized things don't work in my favor, so I'm not doing it anymore. Real life approach is much more balanced, and much more fun. I rather spend the night flirting, talking, and dancing with some girl at a club and have it turn out to be nothing than reading profiles with all the same cliches. But it's a great tool for women, provided they're patient enough to sort through all the idiots.
V.Vixen Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I choose to date many men (and that doesn' mean I sleep with many men), because, well, it's fun! I won't complain about not finding the right one after months on match. if I am going to be picky, then I can't complain when I am alone. I guarantee you that calling women names isn't going to be landing you a girlfriend anytime soon though.
Author ruggy Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 Fish, the new game sucks. The old game was better. Vix, no one is calling any of them names. Happy hunting none the less Vix! Seems your in charge in Jersey.
fishtaco Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Fish, the new game sucks. The old game was better. Vix, no one is calling any of them names. Happy hunting none the less Vix! Seems your in charge in Jersey. Old game of running after women is better? Well, ok, whatever works for you I guess.
Author ruggy Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 No fish. Meeting someone in person. Not playing the online dating game. That was what I meant.
V.Vixen Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 It is a game, i admit it. You are just mad because you aren't winning!!! If you were it would be your favorite game. hehehe
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Just relax and take a break from the online dating world..Let it come find you. OFFLINE. Anywhere, anytime..In the grocery store, in the bank..On the street, hook up with friends and go to parties, put yoruself out there and meet people. Obviously the online dating thing right now isn't working for you.
V.Vixen Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Just relax and take a break from the online dating world..Let it come find you. OFFLINE. Anywhere, anytime..In the grocery store, in the bank..On the street, hook up with friends and go to parties, put yoruself out there and meet people. Obviously the online dating thing right now isn't working for you. It's not for everyone. Men do the approaching, so start approaching more women in real life?
socialight Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 the only chance you have on match.com is to simply not take anything on there seriously. The minute you take it seriously you are doomed, especially as a guy. It's full of flakes and insincerity. If you have other action or avenues going, sure, go ahead and join because then you have the attitude that will make it work. If you are honestly joining match with the sincere desire to meet someone there is 99% chance it will end in frustration and failure.
blondesmiler Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 They are not all Nutz, same as not all guys are *********s but dating is a frustrating thing for both sexes. From what you have said about the women, I have had done to me by blokes over and over. Say they'll call, and never to be heard from again. There is unfortunately no answer, except to move onto the next one and be glad you didn't waste too much emotional energy (as some do) on someone not that interested.
Author ruggy Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 Just taking in easy for the foreseeable future. Relationships or the attempt of pursuing a relationship is not worth all this frustration. Was happier before I started up again in December. Where is that damn time machine when you need it.
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