ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 So I am on Match.com. Saw a woman that interests me. Favorited her so I would e-mail her when I get a chance. Next day she winks at me. A day or two later I e-mailed her. We e-mailed a couple of times. Suggested we talk over the tel. She agreed. We talked for about an hour. Suggested we meet up with coffee. She said great idea. She said she'd text me after work. Guess what.. No txt. No txt yesterday. No txt today. She looked at my profile yesterday and again today. Still no contact. I refuse to run after them. Especially even before we meet. My opinion on the opposite sex has already been diminished by the last nemisis I encountered. I swear, I think I walk around with an evil cursed cloud over my head. Unbelieveable.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 it seems like she was really into the progress as much as you were and the fact that you guys talking abruptly stopped after she didnt return the emails and texts maybe suggests to me that something happened. Call her on the phone and leave a message asking if she is ok. If you dont hear back, f^ck it, you tried. That is very odd. Im thinking of doing match.com, some of the horror stories im hearing are shying me away however.
Author ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 Never contacted her again. She said she was going to txt me. I am learning from my last disaster. I ain't running after any of them. She contacts me, I would be more than happy to contact her back. And then contact her again next time. If there was one. Don't tell me you are interested in meeting me and keep looking at my profile when you have no intention of meeting me.
bella23 Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I agree with Chris call her and leave a message. Maybe she's waiting for a call too... just give it a try, and if she doesn't reply then move on.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Never contacted her again. She said she was going to txt me. I am learning from my last disaster. I ain't running after any of them. She contacts me, I would be more than happy to contact her back. And then contact her again next time. If there was one. Don't tell me you are interested in meeting me and keep looking at my profile when you have no intention of meeting me. Im with you man, id be turned off too but you never know something could have happened. Also you are talking about a text message, forget the texts and get some voice to voice contact going. Put her on the spot and make her tell you shes not interested. If shes going to get shady with you then make it uncomfortable for her so she has to tell you whats up.
Author ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 Maybe. Don't know. That last witch contacts me again today and threw off my whole being over her. If anyone's bored - Its not you, its me? WTF - UPDATED! My opinion of New York women has gone down drastically.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 dude if you think new york women are bad you should north jersey women. Guido loving hos.
fishtaco Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Wait till you come to California and get a taste of Southern California women. Heh. Anyway don't contact her. Ball is in her court. You are not so desperate as to hang on to every slim chance you come across. You move on and hook up with someone else. Plenty of women out there. No reason to be stuck on one. She's the one missing her chance, not you.
movingonandon Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 My theory is that there is a chance that any woman who sticks on match.com for more than a month or 2 could be a 'nut' in some sort of way. There is always such an overwhelming response from guys, that not finding one - just ONE - of them suitable to date (and therefore not sticking on Match forever) in most case will signify some sort of issue, broadly defined. There is a clear inverse relationship between the dateability of the woman and the time she has spent on match.com (dateability understood as sanity/down-to-earth-ness, not just looks or other goods on paper).
gopher Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 She most likely is talking to/dating too many guys to keep up with. Sorry that she let you down like that.
V.Vixen Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I am on Match, too. Trust me, It's not just the women! It takes a while to weed through. I say you should give her ONE message. maybe she thought you were going to contact her.
V.Vixen Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 My theory is that there is a chance that any woman who sticks on match.com for more than a month or 2 could be a 'nut' in some sort of way. There is always such an overwhelming response from guys, that not finding one - just ONE - of them suitable to date (and therefore not sticking on Match forever) in most case will signify some sort of issue, broadly defined. There is a clear inverse relationship between the dateability of the woman and the time she has spent on match.com (dateability understood as sanity/down-to-earth-ness, not just looks or other goods on paper). wow. This is not true. I swear I am not crazy... (match member for 7 months) I have dated a lot of guys that are less than appealing.
zhsoj Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 My theory is that there is a chance that any woman who sticks on match.com for more than a month or 2 could be a 'nut' in some sort of way. I don't see what being on Match.com has to do with it... Women are plain crazy regardless of where they are. Of course that doesn't speak well for those of us that like them anyways...
Art_Critic Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 That last witch contacts me again today and threw off my whole being over her. Guido loving hos. I think I might see why they drop contact with you... Do you guys see it ? Respect... disrespect can be felt in conversations and thru communication
gopher Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I have my philosophy about online dating, and of course it's coming from my bias and experiences. I don't mind competing for a woman, wooing her and letting her know she is special, in fact I like doing that. But, online dating gives BOTH sexes so many options of new people that SOME women and men don't give someone a chance. Because everyday they get new matches and emails, especially if they have a great profile or are very attractive. For me, I feel like if I meet a woman in my day to day life, and we hit it off and go on a date or three....she most likely is not going to be persuing other guys and certainly not dating 3 or more guys at the same time. I'm a "one at a time" kind of guy and that's what I am looking for in someone I date. In fact, I have a date tomorrow with someone I met at church. All in all, you have to weighs the pros and cons for you and your personality, plus factoring in your experiences.
movingonandon Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 wow. This is not true. I swear I am not crazy... (match member for 7 months) I have dated a lot of guys that are less than appealing. Well, i meant is as a general pattern, not as an insult! I'm sure in some part of the country the supply of guys is not that great, and there can be great variation even within the same region. I've browsed the guy profiles where I live, and while there are some apparent losers, there are a number of seemingly decent and well put together guys. Given that any woman on match receives an avalanche of emails, except in the unfortunate cases when all of them suck, if there is adequate supply, one would expect that the turnover in girl profiles would be faster than the one in guys...
movingonandon Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I don't see what being on Match.com has to do with it... Women are plain crazy regardless of where they are. Of course that doesn't speak well for those of us that like them anyways... I like them anyway . My paternalistic tendencies make the insanity look endearing rather than annoying
V.Vixen Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 just because a guy is a good guy doesn't mean he is the right guy for me. I HAVE dated a few "good guys" from there, and am actually friends with a couple now. I have also been told before that I am one of the only ones they have found on there that seem "normal", so I am not sure what other kind of women are out there (since I don't seek out women. lol).
movingonandon Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 just because a guy is a good guy doesn't mean he is the right guy for me. That is true, of course, but I'll bet $100 that you'll have a very hard time explaining what exactly "right for you" means . I've never heard a guy use that phrase - if you're decent looking, sane girl with some goals in life, which you are, 95% of all guys are sold on you. If you're good looking, sane guy with some goals in life, whether or not girl likes you is a purely random process - more function of her own idyosincrasies than anything you do (or don't do).
Author ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 I can understand that it is harder for a woman to "choose" a man to talk too. Very hard some times. Alas, whatcha going to do. Roll with the punches, that is what I say. Art_Critic, read my other post before you post something dumb like that.
Art_Critic Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Art_Critic, read my other post before you post something dumb like that. Dude.. the one poster called women ho's and you called the girl you are in contact with a witch... I'm not the one showing disrespect to woman thru name calling... the point I was making is that if you show women disrespect when they are not in your presence then when you are in the presence of a woman they can sense how you treat a woman.. that is a good reason why women might just up and stop talking to you... By the way.. I'm a match.com success.. I met my wife thru match and because of match I have a sexy hot wife and beautiful one year old boy
Author ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 Respect is earned my friend, not given on demand. Notice, I reserved my comments to TWO women not the whole gender. There are some very nice women I met on Match who I am just not into. And some were not into me. That is cool. To lead a dude on and them play games. That is what I am talking about. Its hard to find a grown up women these days. I feel I am back in high school. I can wait. I am in no frantic rush. Glad you found your wife there dude. There may be some hope for mankind.
BCCA Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Online dating isn't for everyone. For guys especially, its a long and sometimes painful process. You can be a great guy and do what you can to make your profile stand out, but there are a TON of people on match, and honestly, the attractive women are going to get a lot of responses. At that point, its a crap shoot...will they even respond? Who knows. And you should expect that anyone you havent had the 'exclusive' talk with is dating other people.
fishtaco Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Respect is earned my friend, not given on demand. Have to side with ruggy here, sorry Art_Critic. The goal here is to give women the same respect as men and as a human being, but no more, no less. Men that give women some sort of extra respect simply because she is woman, is immediately fighting an upward battle as a doormat. Respect is earned, just like ruggy said. Plus ruggy is frustrated, so on an unrelated online forum he anonymously called one a witch or whatever. That's all that is. It doesn't mean anything outside of that. Also ruggy, due to one of my hobbies I have plenty of run-ins with older people that are out and about. It's interesting to observe all the dating drama between people that are 50+. Guess what, it's the same as high school drama. Age has nothing to do with it. This is just how people are.
Author ruggy Posted February 20, 2009 Author Posted February 20, 2009 Online dating isn't for everyone. For guys especially, its a long and sometimes painful process. You can be a great guy and do what you can to make your profile stand out, but there are a TON of people on match, and honestly, the attractive women are going to get a lot of responses. At that point, its a crap shoot...will they even respond? Who knows. And you should expect that anyone you havent had the 'exclusive' talk with is dating other people. No exclusive talk. Just a meet. Said yes. Was going to text me after work. That was four days ago. I am playing a new game now. No more running after anyone. It will be whatever it will be.
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