pr-girl Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I've been on and off LS for a year and a half and I've developed a connection with many of you. You've helped me through a lot. I can only hope my story can help someone else. I came to realize recently that I tend to read into things waaaay too much. "What does that text mean?" "Why hasn't he called?" "Does he not want me enough?" "Does he think about me?" "If he really wanted me, he'd plan ahead for a date." Seriously, I annoy myself with these questions. After taking into account what several of you have been telling me for over a year, it started hitting me. Then, the other night, a friend of a friend began talking to me at a get-together. He has a surgeon gf and he is an attorney. They love each other immensely, but don't have much time for each other. He said if they read into every little thing with each other, they would think the other doesn't care at all. In regard to me doubting the new guy I've began seeing (because he works in news and is extremely busy), he said to me, "You need to go into this assuming he is feeling everything he says he is. You HAVE to trust that he is telling you the truth. You must KNOW that, of course, he wants you. Why wouldn't he? Feel it for yourself and you'll believe in him." I replied, "But, I don't want to be a fool." He said, "You said you rarely find someone you are so attracted to in so many ways. If you think you 2 are that compatible, what do you have to lose?" My entire attitude has changed. Amazingly, once I let go of all the questions and just began to believe, the guy I'm seeing began to open up more to me, tell me how he feels, began trying to see me more, and reaches out to me more. I truly believe that my resistance was felt on his end. He felt the lack of trust, I'm sure. He told me last night that he loves seeing a new side of me. I think that's because I'm not holding back anymore. He said that he's been trying to open me up and finally, he sees me. My heartbreak over a year ago was horrible. I never want to feel it again. But, I can't keep going on thinking every relationship will hurt me in the end. I can't keep believing I will be the one left with heartache. Who knows if this new guy is the one for me? The least I can do is try. Without hope, what do we have?
winsmith-84 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Good post. Everybody is different so you can't really read into too many things. What may be true for one person may be different for another.
DunnoWhat Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Trust is vital for happiness. For me it's important to find somebody who is trustworthy and then there are no worries. A liar can not be trusted.
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