Isolde Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 You need to get your friends off their butts and have them set you up on some dates! Don't take friendship networks for granted, it makes dating easier if you just ask. Don't be shy to ask your girlfriends, "Know any cute single guys?"
Author blondesmiler Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 You need to get your friends off their butts and have them set you up on some dates! Don't take friendship networks for granted, it makes dating easier if you just ask. Don't be shy to ask your girlfriends, "Know any cute single guys?" I have asked over and over, they are totally rubbish and have never set me up with anyone.
BCCA Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 You need to get your friends off their butts and have them set you up on some dates! Don't take friendship networks for granted, it makes dating easier if you just ask. Don't be shy to ask your girlfriends, "Know any cute single guys?" Ive beaten that horse, repeadetly. Honestly, if you asked me right now, I dont know one single girl/guy to set anyone up with, and all my friends are the same way. I've asked, trust me. Its funny cause away from online dating I don't "look" am not one of those girls that watches the door for everyman that walks in or past. When I go out with my friends, I go out with them just to enjoy their company, the conversation and also what we are doing. It's like a catch 22. If you go out and dont look, you dont meet anyone, but if you do try, you still dont meet anyone and feel depressed about trying and failing. And then it becomes a mental game you play, constantly reassuring yourself that its not you, etc. I wish I could tell you what vibes you were giving off. Your pic looks cute, you seem like a nice and intelligent person, so I dont know what the issue is. Sometimes, its just random.
Isolde Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I have asked over and over, they are totally rubbish and have never set me up with anyone. Find new friends then Seriously I hate it when friends in relationships just give cliche advice and don't actually do anything to at least help their single friends enjoy themselves for an evening out.
lovestruck818 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Find new friends then Seriously I hate it when friends in relationships just give cliche advice and don't actually do anything to at least help their single friends enjoy themselves for an evening out. My friends are the same way. The ironic thing is *I* set them up when they needed somebody...and now *I* need someone and they wont do it for me. People suck. I'm moving to Mars.
BCCA Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Find new friends then Seriously I hate it when friends in relationships just give cliche advice and don't actually do anything to at least help their single friends enjoy themselves for an evening out. Where should I look Most people get involved in a relationship, and then all they have for you is 'someday youll find someone' lol. And counting on other people to find you someone is like buying lotto tickets instead of finding a job. My friends either dont call me back, cant hang out, or I can join them as the third wheel. Not great options there.
clv0116 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Chin up. You're cute and blonde, how long can your dry spell last?
lovestruck818 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Where should I look Most people get involved in a relationship, and then all they have for you is 'someday youll find someone' lol. And counting on other people to find you someone is like buying lotto tickets instead of finding a job. My friends either dont call me back, cant hang out, or I can join them as the third wheel. Not great options there. BCCA- I totally hear ya! You can hang out with me if you want to!
Author blondesmiler Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Find new friends then Seriously I hate it when friends in relationships just give cliche advice and don't actually do anything to at least help their single friends enjoy themselves for an evening out. Finding new friends, mmm can be just as hard as finding a date! I will give my friends the credit for they do come out for a night even month or two, solo not with OH or Husbands. Where should I look Most people get involved in a relationship, and then all they have for you is 'someday youll find someone' lol. And counting on other people to find you someone is like buying lotto tickets instead of finding a job. My friends either dont call me back, cant hang out, or I can join them as the third wheel. Not great options there. Oh don't you love those lines: You never know what is round the corner/someone for everyone/its not all moonlight and roses you know/your better off single you know!!! arrrrrgggghhhh ~ wonder how they would have felt if I had said that to them when they met there OH Chin up. You're cute and blonde, how long can your dry spell last? About a year and half too date (well totally dry since October thats long enough!!! ) BCCA- I totally hear ya! You can hang out with me if you want to! Ooooh can I come too, pwleaseeeee
BCCA Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Ooooh can I come too, pwleaseeeee I'm in! Now if only we were all in California... blondesmiler, the worst part is that people hand out advice that didnt even work for them. I hear all the time 'you should do X', and then I find out that the person telling you has never tried it themself and thats not how they met their bf/gf. So, what...now Im a guinnea pig for potential dating strategies? I've been totally dry for a few months myself. As in, not even one date. I gets old, real fast.
Yamaha Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 IT is hard to find someone that is worthy of a LTR. You can easily find people who you want to hook up with for the short term but then you seem to find out that you really don't like them or they you. I also believe that you have to be in a certain mindset to find the person that is right for you. That means being open to someone and allowing yourself to break down the barriers that we all carry. You don't want to get hurt so you guard your heart, sometimes to much. I can count on 1 hand the times I have met someone that I really clicked with on all levels but when you do the waiting is so worth it. I think the key is to make yourself available and be open to take a chance.
Author blondesmiler Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 I'm in! Now if only we were all in California... So, what...now Im a guinnea pig for potential dating strategies? I can move!! lol Now do we need to start living in a hutch with straw and hay for beds and corverse by sqeeking annoyingly :laugh:
Isolde Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I think the key is to make yourself available and be open to take a chance. What do you mean by "available and open," exactly?
Author blondesmiler Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 What do you mean by "available and open," exactly? Open wide???? lmao ;)
BCCA Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 I can move!! lol Now do we need to start living in a hutch with straw and hay for beds and corverse by sqeeking annoyingly :laugh: Come on over! The weather is great, and Im sure youll love it here! I wish I could move to London, though...Ive always wanted to live in another country for a couple years. Yamaha, I think all of us are open and ready, I think for me personally is the people Im meeting are just not on the same page. 99% of the time, there is either no one Im interested in, or whoever I get my eye on isnt interested. On the bright side, I can now smell a BS line a mile away
Yamaha Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 What do you mean by "available and open," exactly? Try this site. http://www.angriesout.com/couples.htm
stepka Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Chin up. You're cute and blonde, how long can your dry spell last? That's the spirit. Guys, you're worrying me--I'm not cute and blonde, heck, I'm not even cute and if you young'ns can't even get a date, what hope is there for me?
clv0116 Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Open wide???? lmao ;) I love it when you talk dirty to me baby.
Author blondesmiler Posted February 25, 2009 Author Posted February 25, 2009 Try this site. http://www.angriesout.com/couples.htm Entitled Happy Couples - we can't even get dates so think that site is jumping the gun for us, its all about living in harmony with another, need to find another before can even think about living in harmony with them.
lovestruck818 Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I'm in! Now if only we were all in California... blondesmiler, the worst part is that people hand out advice that didnt even work for them. I hear all the time 'you should do X', and then I find out that the person telling you has never tried it themself and thats not how they met their bf/gf. So, what...now Im a guinnea pig for potential dating strategies? I've been totally dry for a few months myself. As in, not even one date. I gets old, real fast. I do get a lot of dates that don't work out...that also gets old...and i feel is no better really. The problem is not that they don't like me- that's not it at all- the problem is no men want commitment! We women are not doing anything wrong- it's the pansy-a$$ men who wont commit.
Author blondesmiler Posted February 28, 2009 Author Posted February 28, 2009 We women are not doing anything wrong- it's the pansy-a$$ men who wont commit. Actually I think you probably have something here! Certainly not all but then you have too date an awful lot of guys (which as you rightly say gets old and boring) to find one who actually might have his head screwed on right, has actually gotten over his ex and is ready for an adult relationship. Ahem, its a sad, sorry situation. Think of all those blokes who have missed out on everything (inside and out) that I have too offer!!
Woggle Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 We won't commit because when we do she suddenly loses interest and falls out of love with us. Us pansy ass men may not commit initially but the reason is too many pansy ass women bail on us once we do. Why do women always get on our case for not commiting and then throw us out the minute we do?
clv0116 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 What woggle said is a common theme. I don't understand it but it happens. As long as I have multiple girls I date it seems like I'm too fascinating to turn loose of. If I get down to one then it's really easy to get to zero.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 Your avatar isn't very flattering, maybe you need to look into projecting a different image? why would you say something like that? idiot.
clv0116 Posted February 28, 2009 Posted February 28, 2009 why would you say something like that? idiot. Because her old avatar wasn't very flattering, unlike her new one, moron. I said it to help her fix it, dolt. Are we finished with the insults now?
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