sarabear86 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I've dated a few men in my life in a serious matter and had gotten very emotionally involved...recently i've been off and on seeing this guy. The reason it's been off and on is because of his lack of time for me with it being his last semester in school and being bogged down with all of his work. We still keep in touch even though we're "off" right now and we admit to missing each other but try to keep our boundaries while still keeping in touch for possibly being together later on when he's not so busy. I won't go into the whole story because a lot of people will have cynical outlooks on this but if you knew us you would know we are exclusive to each other even without being together. Anyways, lately every time I see him, and often time when I think about him i've been getting extremely "flushed" in the face...to the point where it actually hurts my face. I'm asian so i don't know if that's why i can physically feel it more? But i've never had this reaction before, this is also the first time that even being emotionally involved that i've had a gut instinct about the two of us being right for each other. I've never felt this feeling and i'm nto sure why by body is reacting this way physiologically...it's not a "excited" kind of flushing because it's not when i'm thinking about him that way, just when i think about how i miss him etc. but it's kind of annoying because it kind of hurts my face...does anyone know what this is?
complication Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Not sure, see a doctor. You probably get emotions worked up and have a large amount of blood flow. See a doctor.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Any other symptoms? Are you taking any medications? If so, what? Do you have a sensitive sympathetic nervous system? This could be described as being sensitive, beyond the norm, to sensory inputs (light, sound, taste, smell, etc). Nerves control vasodilation. Wild guess but the hormonal response to your "feelings" is causing both your blood pressure to rise and vessels to dilate, markedly in your face. The increased blood flow and space required presses upon nerve tissues, of which there are many in the face, causing pain. Do you note sexual arousal, such as lubrication and/or clitoral arousal, during these episodes? Perhaps mention this to your doctor the next time you have a checkup. It doesn't sound like a health issue but I've seen innocent clues to much more serious issues before. I don't think your ethnicity is a factor but am happy to learn more.
Author sarabear86 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 i don't have any sexual arousal symptoms but i do have a slight anxiety issue. i have minor anxiety attacks a few times a year. but i haven't had any in a long time nor do i have much to be stressed about right now...so that makes me think it's not related, especially because it's only when i think about him. i think also it might be because i'm nervous, it's only been happening this week and we've had planned a get together tomorrow night (we planned it on monday) so maybe this is why?
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Describe a typical anxiety attack. Does it prevent you from performing your normal ADL's (activities of daily living)? When you're with this guy, would you say you sense all kinds of nuances about him, far in excess to what you see him sensing about you? If yes, do you have that experiences with others as well, not just romantic partners? FWIW, if you know you have this reaction, such knowledge can become a vicious circle, playing upon your emotions and perpetuating the cycle. I found "letting go" of the anxiety, mainly by open action and communication, went a long way towards diffusing physical manifestations of it. So, whatever is on your mind, share it with him. Accept the results. Free your mind
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