carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 And she also could have called her friend back as well...so...touche? What do you think? Still think she'll call? If her "friend" is female, it is of no importance. With non-romantic friends, there are much lesser expectations. If a girlfriend doesn't call, it's just like when I don't hear from one of my male friends. No biggie. If they died, someone would call me IOW, minimal expectation. Here's what really works, and you have to believe it. Call her when YOU feel like it. Do not EXPECT her to call you or return calls. You each are not important enough in the other's life to have that expectation yet. Call OTHERS. Enjoy
BCCA Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 And she also could have called her friend back as well...so...touche? What do you think? Still think she'll call? If I could give you an answer, I would be a rich man! lol Who knows. Maybe is the best answer you can hope for. I wouldn't completely lose hope until tomorrow, personally, but I know how frustrating it can be. For what its worth, this is how dating goes most of the time. Thats why actually finding someone is such a rewarding feeling.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 If her "friend" is female, it is of no importance. With non-romantic friends, there are much lesser expectations. If a girlfriend doesn't call, it's just like when I don't hear from one of my male friends. No biggie. If they died, someone would call me IOW, minimal expectation. Here's what really works, and you have to believe it. Call her when YOU feel like it. Do not EXPECT her to call you or return calls. You each are not important enough in the other's life to have that expectation yet. Call OTHERS. Enjoy Her friend is her best girl friend. I may be overanalyzing it, but after my "date" wrote that message that she's too busy to call and will call later today, her girl friend wrote .. "aww you guys are going to have a great weekend.....i love you too darling ♥" So...not sure how to handle that one.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 If I could give you an answer, I would be a rich man! lol Who knows. Maybe is the best answer you can hope for. I wouldn't completely lose hope until tomorrow, personally, but I know how frustrating it can be. For what its worth, this is how dating goes most of the time. Thats why actually finding someone is such a rewarding feeling. It sucks. If I were not interested in someone I would not have done what she did - I would have avoided the 2nd date call after the 1st date, let alone the other stuff.
BCCA Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 It sucks. If I were not interested in someone I would not have done what she did - I would have avoided the 2nd date call after the 1st date, let alone the other stuff. Dating mistake #1: never assume that other people will act the same way that you would. You just never know what someone has going on behind the scenes, and there are honestly people who agree to and go on dates that have a bf or an ex in the mix, and they just need a change of pace. Dating is never easy. These things happen to all of us all the time. I've had girls come up and chat with me, seem super interested and give me their numbers, only to never talk to them again because they didnt answer or call me back. Thats just the way it is, you cant read too much into it.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Her friend is her best girl friend. I may be overanalyzing it, but after my "date" wrote that message that she's too busy to call and will call later today, her girl friend wrote .. "aww you guys are going to have a great weekend.....i love you too darling ♥" So...not sure how to handle that one. IMO, clear sign that they are playing with you.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 IMO, clear sign that they are playing with you. As in the two friends are messing with my head? I don't even know her friend. EDIT: All this was written on the girl I went out with's wall, not mine. The transcript... girl friend #1: you didn't call me last night you whore! update me my date i know!! yesterday i was in such a rush and it was raining and i barely had time to blink. i'll definitely call you today after you get off work around 5-ish? jenny comes today !! you're a whore. love you. girlfirend #1: aww you guys are going to have a great weekend.....i love you too darling ♥ girlfriend #2: because im there =)
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Went on a date. Here's what happened... -Laughing, talking a lot, asking me questions, hugged me at the end -She commented on my Facebook status the day after -She immediately returned my call a few days after the 1st date -On the call, she offered a day that would work for her to do bowling -Day before 2nd date, she calls me and: -------Began by talking in Spanish, gigging knowing I'm not fluent. -------Knew my Facebook status because she asked if I was sick -------She had to cancel, and she told me her schedule for the week -------After I told her I believed her + didn't need to hear it, she said she wanted to make sure I knew she wants to go -------She said the following week would be better + can do something small this week -I called the next day to setup for Fri. (I needed to know in advance b/c it's not a typical date idea) ------I left a message at 10PM -No call back, it's been one full day (she had a full schedule yesterday) What the hell? What do I do? Welcome to the world of women and dating, this is what guys do to us all the time!! Does it make them (all men) dumb Does it make all women dumb NOOOOOOO
BCCA Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Welcome to the world of women and dating, this is what guys do to us all the time!! It goes both ways, for sure. Thats why dating, overall, is frustrating for everyone.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Welcome to the world of women and dating, this is what guys do to us all the time!! It goes both ways, for sure. Thats why dating, overall, is frustrating for everyone. It should not have to be. If I'm not interested in a girl, I will not ask for her number. If a girl's not interested, she can just say it or just not return a call.
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Welcome to the world of women and dating, this is what guys do to us all the time!! It goes both ways, for sure. Thats why dating, overall, is frustrating for everyone. Yeah I know thats why I put a after it, you are totally right, dating seems to have lost alot of its fun factor for alot of people. Me being one of them.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 As in the two friends are messing with my head? I don't even know her friend. EDIT: All this was written on the girl I went out with's wall, not mine. The transcript... Yes, but her girlfriend knows all about you. Have you ever heard the expression "Are your ears burning?" When females network, they operate with a singular mind. Every watch the Star Trek TNG episodes with the Borg? Yep. You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 It should not have to be. If I'm not interested in a girl, I will not ask for her number. If a girl's not interested, she can just say it or just not return a call. If I had a £ for everytime I had given a guy my number and his not called or has, then cancelled and never to be heard from again ~ well I'd be a rich lady by now (ok maybe just a few quid better off). I donno the answer, all you can do is try and if it doesn't work after one, two, three maybe occassions you have to move on.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Yes, but her girlfriend knows all about you. Have you ever heard the expression "Are your ears burning?" When females network, they operate with a singular mind. Every watch the Star Trek TNG episodes with the Borg? Yep. You will be assimilated. Resistance is futile I'm still not following what you're saying. When her friend replied with "you guys are gunna have such a good weekend" she was talking about her 2nd girlfriend (I excluded names, her 2nd friend's name is Jenn though). So what do you mean?
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Who knows what they are talking about? Who cares? In time, you'll understand that these are the games some women play. You're still interested, right?
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Who knows what they are talking about? Who cares? In time, you'll understand that these are the games some women play. You're still interested, right? Yep. I know she was referrign to her girl friend. I just hope she calls based off of what she did - didn't call her friend either the entire day. So we'll see.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 The minute you truly forget about her, she'll call
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 The minute you truly forget about her, she'll call Dude lol, you're getting way too philosophical for me.
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 The minute you truly forget about her, she'll call Or you'll have moved on enough to not care whether she calls or not.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Or you'll have moved on enough to not care whether she calls or not. At this point, I don't care, I just hate uncertainty. That's all I'm saying.
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 At this point, I don't care, I just hate uncertainty. That's all I'm saying. Yes I know that is a horrible place too be, I sympathise with you. Best thing is too get busy with other things to keep your mind off her and the uncertainty.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Yes I know that is a horrible place too be, I sympathise with you. Best thing is too get busy with other things to keep your mind off her and the uncertainty. Appreciate it. I am, but it lingers. So she was legit busy yesterday, and I now know everyone doesn't operate similarly, and she seemed interested based off of what I said in the first post...so...what do you think?
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Appreciate it. I am, but it lingers. So she was legit busy yesterday, and I now know everyone doesn't operate similarly, and she seemed interested based off of what I said in the first post...so...what do you think? I think it is totally possible that she has got distracted and forgotten, it does happen. However if it is that important to you, within a reasonable time span you will remember and get back to the person. What is reasonalbe, well that differs from person too person so hard too say. But try putting yourself in opposite corner, if you really like someone, how long would you leave it, if it was that important too you, too get back to her?? You may then get your answer.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 I think it is totally possible that she has got distracted and forgotten, it does happen. However if it is that important to you, within a reasonable time span you will remember and get back to the person. What is reasonalbe, well that differs from person too person so hard too say. But try putting yourself in opposite corner, if you really like someone, how long would you leave it, if it was that important too you, too get back to her?? You may then get your answer. I wouldn't leave it. She's not interested, clearly. Bah.
Tomcat33 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 As in the two friends are messing with my head? I don't even know her friend. EDIT: All this was written on the girl I went out with's wall, not mine. The transcript... Quote: girl friend #1: you didn't call me last night you whore! update me my date i know!! yesterday i was in such a rush and it was raining and i barely had time to blink. i'll definitely call you today after you get off work around 5-ish? jenny comes today !! you're a whore. love you. girlfirend #1: aww you guys are going to have a great weekend.....i love you too darling ♥ girlfriend #2: because im there =) Complication how is this playing with you?????????? I think people are being unecessariy harsh of this girl and feeding the frenzy you have worked yourself into with no real substance to go on. So what if she was giddy and laughed a lot on the phone, that makes her a ditz? So what if she cancelled on the date because she got too busy and wants to reschdule not like she stood you up, you only went out with her on ONE date she has a life too she is entitled to be busy and to pace herself if she has other plans. That makes her a foolish idiot and a player? I think you should take a deep breath and take a step back, it was only one date you can't judge this girl on the behaviour of one date and what she did after that because the date was good and she clearly said she wanted to see you again just not this week. Is that horrible? According to the transcript you copied here from FB from the girl's wall it seems like she has another girlfriend coming to town this weekend and girlfriend#1 was telling her the two of them would have a great time this weekend. Unless I misunderstood that's what I intepreted!?!? How is what they said playing with you? Can you share you interpretation because I am clearly missing something here...? Also that conversation on FB seems to be in line with the fact that she was really busy the day before and hence the reason she didn't even call you back, she told her friend she didnt have time to blink. So in fact it seems she is being quite honest. I would give her a another chance it sounds like you are the one playing with your head not the girl and coming here doesn't seem to help much. I fail to see what she did that was so horrible!?!?
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