complication Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Went on a date. Here's what happened... -Laughing, talking a lot, asking me questions, hugged me at the end -She commented on my Facebook status the day after -She immediately returned my call a few days after the 1st date -On the call, she offered a day that would work for her to do bowling -Day before 2nd date, she calls me and: -------Began by talking in Spanish, gigging knowing I'm not fluent. -------Knew my Facebook status because she asked if I was sick -------She had to cancel, and she told me her schedule for the week -------After I told her I believed her + didn't need to hear it, she said she wanted to make sure I knew she wants to go -------She said the following week would be better + can do something small this week -I called the next day to setup for Fri. (I needed to know in advance b/c it's not a typical date idea) ------I left a message at 10PM -No call back, it's been one full day (she had a full schedule yesterday) What the hell? What do I do?
Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 She sound's like a Bimbo, with a short attention span. Needy on her terms-stay away!
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Now why in the world would you say "girls" instead of "this girl" in the title of this thread? Apparently, THIS girl is a complete bubble head. Well I've been single for some time now after my ex went out with me, and other than one girl the rest I went out with had major baggage and it never worked out. So after 6 months of being single after a 1 year relationship, I'm frustrated now that my dates go nowhere.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 She sound's like a Bimbo, with a short attention span. Needy on her terms-stay away! I'm 21 now and only have 2 months left in my Junior year of college before a 3 month summer. Oddly, I feel crappy because a lot of my friends are in relationships, and I feel that if I don't find a girl in college I'll never meet one after.
Geishawhelk Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Went on a date. Here's what happened... blah blah blah.... ....... What do I do? You live your life, stop chasing her, and forget about her. She'll soon notice the lack of attention and either try to attract yours again (in which case, you decide whether you want to pursue this) or you ignore her.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 You live your life, stop chasing her, and forget about her. She'll soon notice the lack of attention and either try to attract yours again (in which case, you decide whether you want to pursue this) or you ignore her. Oddly, her interests, attitudes, beliefs, etc. do not come across as someone who wants attention. ****, she's the one that initiated initial talking with me. Her tone, actions, and what not (other than the phone call) seemed to guarantee interest. But, I think it's best if I leave it - I left a voice mail, no need to further contact. I'm just frustrated for my last post. Thanks.
MissDee Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 She sounds like a total ditz and likes drama. Just forget her and move on, there's plenty of other girl's out there... especially in college.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 She sounds like a total ditz and likes drama. Just forget her and move on, there's plenty of other girl's out there... especially in college. What makes you think she likes drama? And I'm kind of sick of talking to random chicks by now, most carry baggage.
Woggle Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Many women just like to play stupid games like this. I say just forget her and move on.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Many women just like to play stupid games like this. I say just forget her and move on. It's quite ridiculous. If you were not interested after the first date, do not write on my wall, do not return my calls twice immediately, do not reply to a text with something that shows you were listening to me, do not give me your schedule + say you did it to make sure I knew that she wanted to go out, don't agree to something small his week like coffee, etc.
tigereyes12 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Sheesh. Give the girl a few days. If she doesn't call you back, she's just, ahem, not that into you. Move on. Big deal. Just because she isn't exactly great doesn't reflect upon all of womandom.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 What the hell? What do I do? Realize you'll meet a lot of people in life. Meet another person today
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Sheesh. Give the girl a few days. If she doesn't call you back, she's just, ahem, not that into you. Move on. Big deal. Just because she isn't exactly great doesn't reflect upon all of womandom. A few days? If she were interested, she would have at least text to say she's busy and will call.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Realize you'll meet a lot of people in life. Meet another person today Meh, I'd hate to let this one go. She's bilingual, dorky, cute, petite, smart, not a party girl, etc.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 OP, she just added you to the collection of guys in her head that she could attract. It's what the young female brain does. It's called validation. Do some validating of your own. Part of being in college is learning these things, along with how to think and having a relatively carefree lifestyle. You'll have many decades of work and responsibility ahead of you. Enjoy yourself!
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 OP, she just added you to the collection of guys in her head that she could attract. It's what the young female brain does. It's called validation. Do some validating of your own. Part of being in college is learning these things, along with how to think and having a relatively carefree lifestyle. You'll have many decades of work and responsibility ahead of you. Enjoy yourself! Apparantly after college is when legitimate dating begins and it's more about stability rather than what we mostly see in college, flings.
tigereyes12 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 A few days? If she were interested, she would have at least text to say she's busy and will call. As a woman who has, from time to time, been interested in a man, I can safely say that is not always the case. Maybe she's a little bit of a dingbat, maybe she's really, really busy and is just waiting until she can give you the sort of time she wants to give you. It's not her job to respond at the snap of your fingers, you know. She has a life too. And anyway, you're just starting to get to know each other. If this were 4 or 5 months in the future, I'd have a different response. But for now, chill out.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 As a woman who has, from time to time, been interested in a man, I can safely say that is not always the case. Maybe she's a little bit of a dingbat, maybe she's really, really busy and is just waiting until she can give you the sort of time she wants to give you. It's not her job to respond at the snap of your fingers, you know. She has a life too. And anyway, you're just starting to get to know each other. If this were 4 or 5 months in the future, I'd have a different response. But for now, chill out. Perhaps we have different expectations. If you have interest, show it. I'm sorry, but there exists 5 seconds in a day where a quick conversation can be made.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 It's different for everyone. Some people get married while in college. Some remain completely single. What do you want? IMO, dating is about identifying someone you want to spend time with, as well as the enjoyment of the moment. Perfectly normal to do that anytime in life when the desire and feelings strike you. If you enjoyed this young lady, that's great. You can enjoy her again. And again. Along with others. Then you die.
tigereyes12 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Perhaps we have different expectations. If you have interest, show it. I'm sorry, but there exists 5 seconds in a day where a quick conversation can be made. Well, then maybe she's not the girl for you. But from everything you've said, it seems she's at least interested. All I'm saying is, don't give up hope just yet. People have different expectations. When she does call you back (which I'm betting she will), maybe you could casually mention that a text would've been nice just to let you know she hasn't forgotten about you. This will work in your favor doubly: she'll know that you expect frequent communication and she'll realize that you care about her...and this will make her feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Girls like to feel warm and fuzzy inside.
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 I do not want to get married in college, but I like a serious relationship. My last one, which lasted a year, ended sourly so I have a discouraged taste in my mouth. Couple that with some crappy dating experiences for 6 months after with a decent number of girls, it's frustrating. I have two months left of my Juniro year before I go home for Summer. Then Senior year, then NYC. If I date my Senior year and get into a relationship, splitting at graduation for possible different paths sucks. On another note, I saw her Facebook and it said... i know!! yesterday i was in such a rush and it was raining and i barely had time to blink. i'll definitely call you today after you get off work around 5-ish? jenny comes today !! So she didn't call her friend yesterday either...we'll see.
carhill Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Stay away from FB. I'm hearing you want a real life serious relationship. They don't happen on FB. They happen face to face. In the time she took to log into FB and post that message she could've called you. We teach people how to treat us
tigereyes12 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I know the feeling (I'm a junior too, facing potential relationship collapse when my boyfriend graduates in the spring). But I do hope it works out. Keep us updated, eh?
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Stay away from FB. I'm hearing you want a real life serious relationship. They don't happen on FB. They happen face to face. In the time she took to log into FB and post that message she could've called you. We teach people how to treat us And she also could have called her friend back as well...so...touche? What do you think? Still think she'll call?
Author complication Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 I know the feeling (I'm a junior too, facing potential relationship collapse when my boyfriend graduates in the spring). But I do hope it works out. Keep us updated, eh? I will, if I get into a relationship in general. Best of luck to you guys.
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