Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hi, I joined a dating site, put myself out there. Don't think it's me though. Anyhowz a guy sent some messages to go out on a date, over a day period. I replied yeah why not. He's 37, I thought okay this guy is a bit full-on, suggesting picnics, relationship etc, in an old-fashioned way. Was thinking it was his age, liked what he saw or he was just a big player. Very full-on for not meeting me yet. I laughed it off. Anyhowz he kept asking me out for a date, constant text messages I told him my name. He then text me, do we have a date then Trudy? Which is not my name! I replied think you sent message by mistake, he replied after a while-it's in a movie-which is a lie! I updated my profile online, no serial daters, liars, womanizers. Not to waste my time. He saw my profile -saying, too funny & I got the wrong impression.He would like to take me out for a date.. Thinks i'm beautiful etc. I replied not going to date for a while but thanks. Anyhowz, Do I laugh it off and go for a date or leave it?. We're not dating or know each other so he has every right to entertain other people. I found it quite rude though, full on texting, claiming to be this fantastic guy. Think 'll leave it but would like someone else's perspective on this:)
tigereyes12 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Don't date him! He sounds like a total creeper and waaaaaaayyy too aggressive. If his intentions were good, he would be respectful enough to give you some space.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 This guys said it is a dating site, we all get emails,winks etc. I was texting him as well, back & forth, before he text me accidentaly.....for another gal, to go on a date. He confessed there was a gal that he asked out on a date, she delayed it for a few weeks and got back to him. He said he would like to take me out, even for a coffee & take it from there. He said he'd leave me be, if i'm not interested. Do I leave it? He has every right to go on dates, so am I being hypersensitive? what do you think????
tigereyes12 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hum. Well, that changes things a bit. How old are you?
shazam Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I only had a brief experience with online dating, they offered me a free 3 day trial. It seemed like there was a LOT of creepy perverts to weed through! What initially appealed to me was getting to know someone a bit before going out with him, but a lot of guys on there want to cut right to the chase and get together immediately. Not safe for a woman to do that, especially when you do not know what their intentions are. I made the mistake of giving my number to a guy from the site, and he started texting me naked pictures of himself almost immediately. Disqualified! He also tried telling me I got the wrong impression and he was just ‘being funny’. I would suggest being very picky before going out on an actual date. It was surprising to me that 1.5 yrs later when I browsed that dating site again, it was a lot of the same guys on there! Obviously they are still single, but getting ‘something’ from these sites or they would not continue paying for the service.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 I'm 29, never go on dates!!!!lol! He can go on as many dates as he likes-he just got caught juggling!! Don't think it bodes well though, for to start a relationship if we did meet up?? He's texted, well do I want to leave it or go out? Not sure? What to do? Advice greatly appreciatedx
tigereyes12 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Ah, so he's not horrifically older than your are. Eh. Go for it. But be wary of men who promise too much. And make sure to meet in a public place...and don't give out too much personal info.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Certainly making me see guys in a new light! Think my trust barriers will stay up, though. Still older than I usually would go for. Starting to think guys that declare affections much later onnnnnn with a gal is the genuine ones. If I do, I'll give you an update.'Thanksxx
BCCA Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 It seemed like there was a LOT of creepy perverts to weed through! It's like that for men, too. I had women sending me very creepy emails, and they were like 15+ years older than me. I also had a girl send me an email saying she just wants someone to marry her, she doesnt care about who it is or love at all. Yeah...creepy.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 LOL, Not great pickings, I will admit!!!!
lovestruck818 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hi, I joined a dating site, put myself out there. Don't think it's me though. Anyhowz a guy sent some messages to go out on a date, over a day period. I replied yeah why not. He's 37, I thought okay this guy is a bit full-on, suggesting picnics, relationship etc, in an old-fashioned way. Was thinking it was his age, liked what he saw or he was just a big player. Very full-on for not meeting me yet. I laughed it off. Anyhowz he kept asking me out for a date, constant text messages I told him my name. He then text me, do we have a date then Trudy? Which is not my name! I replied think you sent message by mistake, he replied after a while-it's in a movie-which is a lie! I updated my profile online, no serial daters, liars, womanizers. Not to waste my time. He saw my profile -saying, too funny & I got the wrong impression.He would like to take me out for a date.. Thinks i'm beautiful etc. I replied not going to date for a while but thanks. Anyhowz, Do I laugh it off and go for a date or leave it?. We're not dating or know each other so he has every right to entertain other people. I found it quite rude though, full on texting, claiming to be this fantastic guy. Think 'll leave it but would like someone else's perspective on this:) Welcome to online dating! Anyone anyone i know has ever met online claiming to be single really wasn't. Internet is full of liars.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Why dose he have your # anyways? back when I use to communicate with on line men I always rang them from a blocked # until I got to really know them no exceptions. I think some times people are getting to comfy with giving out personal info on line no offense to you. He sounds needy and clingy at best I would nicely ask him to lose my # or change it if you can.
CommitmentPhobe Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 leave it, he sounds like a douche to say the least.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Think i'll leave it, don't even know the guy, but it really winds me up that people have NEXT! attitude! Why do they spin alot of crap, i'd respect them more if they were who they say they are! I know I have a childlike heart, but I realy think the guys I come across are absolute twats!
BCCA Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 but I realy think the guys I come across are absolute twats! Welcome to every woman I've met over the last 6 months. Online was the worst, by far. It's left such a bad taste in my mouth that I've told everyone I know it sucks lol. My dad told me this when I was young, and its sad, but true: most people you meet in life are selfish jerks.
Author Jenny123 Posted February 21, 2009 Author Posted February 21, 2009 Hi guy's, Update: Went on date on my terms-nicer in person, than what I presumed. Pleasantly surprised. Had an absolute blast, he's 37, say's he wants to settle down etc. Questions, What do I want in life? That's very open talk for me, but.. He is a bit intense, but I like what I see so far. I will take baby steps, If he is a fake, I feel sorry for him-only making a mockery of people. My walls are up for now, so far so good though. Do older guy's talk like this? Reach a certain stage in life?
ray342 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 you should check out http://www.confonder.com I have had a lot of success with that site. Its a completely free online dating site
Author Jenny123 Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 Have had two dates, with the guy that caught my eye. He's really nice, his cards are on the table and I hope that a relationship will develop. The feeling is mutual, so watch this space!x
Author Jenny123 Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 Hi all, well i've been dating this guy so far, sooo good. Bit fast, so soon but we are well suited and we are very attracted to each other. He is more suited to me than any of my ex's! So i'll see, how we go. I have been hurt before, late last year, so is hard to bring my walls down. It is embarresing explaining how we met. Works for some;0
Shygirl15 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Hi all, well i've been dating this guy so far, sooo good. Bit fast, so soon but we are well suited and we are very attracted to each other. He is more suited to me than any of my ex's! So i'll see, how we go. I have been hurt before, late last year, so is hard to bring my walls down. It is embarresing explaining how we met. No, it's not! Works for some;0 See? And you were almost giving up. All the best, hope it works out well.
Author Jenny123 Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 Thanks Shygirl15, Has made me see you just never know what's around the corner. Everything happen's for a reason.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Hi, I joined a dating site, put myself out there. not going to date for a while but thanks. Yet another person misrepresenting herself on the internet. Happens all the time.
Author Jenny123 Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Sincereonlineguy, I did put myself out there, thought the guy wasn't legit. I was wrong. So said i'd leave dating for a while. We are dating and so far so good. How is that misrepresenting oneself?
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