GregHaile Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Ok here it goes... The story dates back to when I was living in germany. It all started on myspace when I started talking to my now wife and gettting to know her. One day almost a year to the day, we decided to finally meet. She was amazing, everything that my stupid ass didnt deserve. She is a german girl who is fluent in english and i was love struck:love:. It was amazing, our first few months together, and yea sure sometimes I would yell at her on the phone for no reason but honestly it was the most true feeling I have ever felt. I had a fiance before I moved to germany that was pregnant at the time with my first child. It was all that I could think about, being a dad, was I ready, no I wasn't. I ended up cheating on her almost a month after being here and the rough phone calls straining the relationship, I just needed to take it into my own hands. She was complaining to me all the time about nto talking to me but once a month, I just couldnt handle it so I started back on my trend that I was good at. I drank a ton because the drinking age in germany is only 18 and I got with a lot girls from my work. One fateful night though it all caught up with me and I got a call from my fiance's mom about how she and the baby had been killed in an accident. It was definately a damper on my life. I was cheating on my now dead fiance' who was pregnant with my child. How could I handle that, how could anyone handle that. I drank so much and was getting in so much trouble. I was having trouble at work, trouble in bed with other girls (I'm not well endowed), I just couldn't handle it. I realized then that I had to find someone to settle down with. I finally like I said met that girl on myspace. When we finally met it was amazing, she was just perfect. Hot, definately better looking than my ex, and I couldn't believe that I was with her. So we dated and dated commuting 2 hrs each time and trying to keep it a secret with her parents. Finally I had to meet them and it was horrible, her dad and mom wanted nothing to do with me, I didnt even ask their permission to marry her before meeting them. So, she moved in with me and we struggled to pay bills and didn't have a car, (used a train to see her) eventually we wed and when it came time for me to move back to the states she couldn't come because of the no green card issue. So I ended up calling her the other night from my new home in Florida and found out she was pregnant with our child. Wow, a second chance for me maybe, not so. I heard in the background a voice of an ex. She assured me she was just out with some friends and that it was nothing, but I called a girl I had been with that was still there to check on her and she did and found her with her 'friend' naked. What in the world am I supposed to do, I don't deserve this, I want her to want me, What do I do, Help me please!
Adri Ana Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 First of all,calm down . Everything happens, you need to concentrate on your self and your life ,GregHaile, then think over your situation once again . Are you eager to move to Germany to live with your fiance there? Do you have any chances to make her move to States as soon as possible ? And what about that incident, you just need to talk to her personally and know more a bit than you are able to just from distance. By the way why you think you may trust a girl you were once with is telling you truth ? Maybe she is feeling jealous or revenging you departed , maybe she was in love with you and you did not know ? So it was like you asked for a help a wolf and not a lamb .... Think over ...
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