Chicago_Guy Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Hi I'm a 51 year old guy who's dating a 26 year old girl. We have a great physical relationship but sometimes I find myself struggling on what to talk about. I try to avoid topics that date me and I try not to repeat myself. Any suggestions? Thanks Is the 26-year-old hot, or is she obese with no self-esteem? If she's attractive, enjoy it while it lasts because it probably will end unless you're a sugar daddy.
yongyong Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 So this country is based on individualism right? as long as they are mature enough (legally adult), no matter whatever the fxxx they want, you would respect their opinion? Before expressing your opinion, please answer simple question ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- your sister at that age wants to date a guy over 50, would you say yes?? your daughter at that age wants to date a guy over 50, would you say yes?? ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- I think people say stupid shxxs as long as it's nothing to do with them. But when it affects their life (like the question I asked), they change their opinion In fact, it's not a crime, or legally wrong for 51 year old guy dating 26 year old woman. but the society won't accept it and yourself won't accept it either (you would feel very natural to see other couple like that?) I think if you want to have fun with her, fine just don't bring the issue to the public forum. I am sure you will draw a lot of attention when hangingout with her in public too. If you think, 'what the fxxx is wrong with those people staring at me', then ask yourself the question I wrote above.
movingonandon Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 I agree with Chris 250 Of course it can't be against the law but its totally in bad taste. Id have a hard time respecting a guy whos 51 who dates a 26 y/o sorry if that offends I have hard time respecting 30 year old dating an 18 year old. But, 50 year old dating a 26 year, although pushing it, somehow sounds nae that bad (Way to go, dawg !) That said, the long term outlook isn't good. IN any case, that's no reason to give this guy a hard time for getting some fleiva'. If he can pull it off - more power to him. The single annoying part is coming to a forum asking what to talk about with this girl - dude, you bagged her already, you know what to talk about, so no need to come up with lame excuses to brag about it:mad:. Just nod, curl your eyebrows and somehow you'll come across as a big sweetie . Also, 26 year old is supposedly adult (though in my experience the lowest age that might possibly signify adulthood these days...), so the generational differences shoudln't be a big deal since she should have her own identity by now.
bluehare07 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Age doesn't matter at all when it comes to love..
bluehare07 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 age doesn't matter to those who love but it does to everyone around them two.
redant Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Where is her father? I would be embarassed to introduce my bf if he was my fathers age!! That is sick!!!!! Unless she has no father and is in need of a father figure!! I don't think u can relate to someone so much younger unless u relate as a father.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 All judgment aside - I'll stick to the original question. Talk about anything! Age should have nothing to do with anything. If she's intelligent, she should be able to talk about whatever it is that you're thinking will "age" you. I used to work as a CNA when I was 18 and could talk to some of those older people (average of 60 years my senior) for hours on end. I really don't get the problem with an age gap of 25 years being able to talk to each other. 26-year age difference between Celine Dion and her husband Rene Angelil (15 years together), 25-year age difference between Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas (9 years together). And in neither situation do I think that the woman was "desperate," nor a "gold-digger." So it CAN work - WTH business is it of anybody else? If you know what you want Tyrone, and you both (as consenting adults, no less) are happy - who the hell cares what anyone else says? And as to the question about if my sister wanted to date....blah, blah - yes, I'd let her. She's an ADULT. I wouldn't have anything to say about it. If my daughter was freaking 26 years old and wanted to date a 51 year old, I would hope that 8 years past the age when she's considered an adult that she could make her own decisions. There comes a point when you have to quit trying to control people. Express your opinion tastefully, sure - but to try and control a grown woman (saying if that were my daughter) is just ridiculous.
redant Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I had another thought. People are atdifferent maturity levels I would assume if a man relates better to someone much younger then he fits better with that person. Visa versa. I can't judge!
Geishawhelk Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 - WTH business is it of anybody else? If you know what you want Tyrone, and you both (as consenting adults, no less) are happy - who the hell cares what anyone else says? I guess his wife may object a bit. Would that count?
Balthazar Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I have come very late to this thread and have read parts of it. However, I would like to form an educated response to your dilemma. With this in mind, I only have a few words for you Tyrone. MY MAN! Cheers,
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I guess his wife may object a bit. Would that count? Not if they mutually agreed on splitting. That's like me having to run my dating choices by my ex-husband. I guess it depends on the rules of their individual state as to whether a divorce is necessary to dissolve a common-law marriage. But even if they're still technically married, I've seen lots of couples that have legally split but not actually divorced that are both dating other people. Not saying it's RIGHT - I'm just saying. If they mutually agreed on splitting, why would it be his ex-wife's business?
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 The fact is my wife are no longer together -- we mutually agreed to split at Christmas. Rebound? Probably. Ingredients for longevity? Probably not. But who cares? Everyone involved is of legal age and is consenting - to include the ex-wife, because she agreed to the split which would probably indicate dating other people, no?
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