JooLee Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 here's the story. Recently my friend has befriended her ex from 3 years ago. We would all meet up as a group, chilling and hanging out. Somehow, my friend has this crazy idea that her ex likes me. And recently we are friends on facebook, and when she found out she went berserk. i understand her being insecure and all but im hurt that she doesnt trust me. and the way she handled it , it was really immature. she just texted a sarcastic message then when i talked to her she just blew. basically she's accusing me of trying to do something with him. and she went around bitching about me to all the other friends about this. have in mind that i have never talked to him without her being present. and another related story is that since we all started hanging out, she has flirted and went out and even made out with one of her ex's friend. and now she is being pissed off at me for being friends with him on facebook and doesnt want me to talk to him at all. i told her, i dont need to prove myself because i did nothing wrong. and if you dont trust me there's no point in me being your friend. to which she retorted, we are not friends anymore. please someone tell me how ridiculous this is. over a stupid guy! and i guess i need reassurance that i did the right thing in letting the friendship go. because why would i be friends with someone who doesnt appreciate me, right?
MotherGooze Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 If she doesn't trust you, that's her problem not yours. I think you did the right thing, because personally I wouldn't see her as a friend with the way she acted. She's very jealous and insecure, but that doesn't mean you have to suffer from it. Well, all I can say is that I hope she'll learn from her mistakes. I wouldn't see a reason why not to trust you.
chardonnay Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 Did the ex break up with her? If so, I can understand her being upset. You're hurt that she doesn't trust you? But have you thought how it feels for her? Why must you be facebook friends with her ex? That would upset me too, if my friends started contacting my ex without my knowledge.
onefunnybabe Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 well if they are friends now, what difference does it make that they used to date? it is childish. they are exes for a reason. does that mean he can't have friends with an ex? it's not like you went out of your way to befriend this person. she brought him to the group. I would tell her from a compassionate place that you understand it's her issue and she needs to trust you otherwise there is no point in being friends. any type of relationship requires trust. sounds like she is projecting her fears, perhaps insecurity, who knows but that is not your job to take care of. she needs to take care of her hurt. stop hanging out with her if things don't improve. there are plenty of people to befriend
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