belleetoile Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hi to all who read this. I have recently broken up with my bf of 6 yrs and so i'm a bit rusty at dating so need a little advice. I met a guy in a club 2 weeks ago. We chatted and had a bit of a snog and swapped numbers. He text the next day but then i didn't hear from him for a few days. Then he initiated a chat with me on facebook and said 'let me know if you want a coffee sometime'. At no pont in the conversation did he flirt at all and he didnt really ask much to try to get to know me - sometimes he was chatty and inquiring but mosly it was quite a one-sided conversation. I thought maybe the coffee thing meant he might like me and want to get to know me better. However, his info tab on his facebook profile says he is interested in 'random play' and he seems to add a new girl as a friend nearly every day. They may be mates etc but i'm thinking maybe they are other women he has pulled and i'm just one in a long list and he's just a player. What does anyone else think? (We ended up arranging to meet for coffee this sat)
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I would lean towards yes - player. Is snog kissing? Like making out? So you guys were smooching within how many minutes of meeting each other? Now, that's not necessarily bad in general, but with the "random play" thing and lots of girls on FB...I'd wonder how many others he had macked on within minutes of meeting them.
winsmith-84 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I would say there's too little information to tell. Who knows what he's thinking - and plus, it's almost impossible to tell what someone is thinking through texts or facebook. I would go get coffee with him so you can read his body language.
BCCA Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I would say just meet him for coffee and see what you think afterward. If snog does mean 'made out', then you may have unfortuantely set a bad precedence. For all the women out there who are leery of guys being players, trust me, there are an equal number of female players out there as well, and he may have thought you were one of them. Guys dont sleep with a lot of random girls because they have magic, they do it because those girls are out there looking to sleep with them, too.
Author belleetoile Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 thanks for the replies Yes 'snog' means kiss or make out. First time he leaned in i did move away but later in the evening we did kiss. I know a nightclub isn't always the best place to meet someone but i met my last boyfriend this way too and it lasted for 6yrs and he wasn't a player at all. I guess you are right and i will just have to wait until saturday for the coffee! x
Charles1978 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Not so fast! I'm currently single these days, and there was a girl that was interested in a relationship with me... but we had not done anything together, no dates, no physical anything, etc. I really liked her, but her friends told her that I am a player. I am not. They saw me kissing a girl in a bar once and that shaped their opinion of me, which was unfair. I was completely single and unattatched. And yes, I do have a lot of female friends and yes I have a bad habit of kissing in bars. But that doesn't make me a player. When I find someone and date her... she is the only one in my life. But until then, I do meet a lot of women. I would not assume this guy is a player until you know for sure. He might just be dating around and enjoying his single life a bit, which doesn't make him a player. To me, a player is not capable of a faithful relationship.
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