goodguy15 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Well me and my girlfriend are taking a break from dating or she took it as a real break up. And she told me I never wanted to do anything because I'm in a tough spot in my life. no job, no money, I don't know what else to do. I don't know if we're meet be friends or more than friends. We've been dating for a little 3 years. It's just that I wasn't happy the way things are going in my life. We just got tired of the conflicts and stress within our relationship. I don't even know if we're going to get back together or not. Or am I going to meet someone else in the near future. I don't know what I want anymore by that time it'll be too late.I need advice. But now my friend from High School but I haven't seen her for 5 years. I was talking to her mom one day and she talked to her for me telling me don't be shy and stop by and it's ok but I don't know if I should see her or not. We used to hangout go to movie once in a while but not for a while. We went to prom together in my senior year. I need some advice and I'm confused.
Ronni_W Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 I get how frustrating "no job, no money" can feel, and it sure does limit what types of activities we can engage in, personally and when dating. One way to feeling a bit more grounded is to consider looking for a job as a job in itself. Be as committed to that as if you had an employer. Some people say that they spend 8 hours a day on their job search efforts. Maybe the first week, when you're doing research about how to write killer resumes, going to register with local employment agencies and such. Stay on top of upcoming local job fairs, know what are the resources for the unemployed in your area. Newspapers still have job listings...don't just limit your search to the Internet. Say you spend 2 hours a day on that (after the 1st week.) Spend the other 6 on personal development...mental, physical, emotional or spiritual. Tons of free resources on the 'net. Important for your own self-esteem and self-confidence. Also, can be learning about money management for when you do land your job. As well, doing some volunteering in areas of your expertise and/or interest. A few links to get you started: http://eqi.org/eqe96_1.htm http://www.richbits.com/RBArchives/backissuesRBNEW.htm http://ezinearticles.com/?Assertive-Communication---6-Tips-For-Effective-Use&id=10259 To be honest, you don't sound in a place where you'd be happy in a relationship, or could facilitate someone else's happiness -- possibly your current circumstances have already eroded some of your usual self-confidence and optimistic outlook. Which is fine. Just, no need to further deplete yourself trying to make a relationship work. Good luck! Yes, it sucks to be jobless...but it's also an opportunity to be growing your arsenal of effective life tools and coping strategies.
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