I'm Joe Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 For a while now I have been in contact with a girl I met on myspace. I actually didnt meet her there she works out at the guy I go to and found my myspace through someone else..anyway I have gone out with her a few times we talk on the phone now and then, we are not dating by any stretch of the imagination but I think she might want to start eventually. We seem to click on a lot of levels, we both love all kinds of music. we both have the same political view points we both attend church. we are both young and attractive (when I clean up) there is however one thing that makes me very hesitant. She is mean as hell! she constantly says terrible things about former friends and boyfriends, she will make very rude remarks about unattractive people (ie: "look how fat she is" "that guy is disgusting") or if our waitress is anything less than a angel "she is kind of a bitch" she also insults me all the time. she is of course joking, and no one can take an insult better than me, but it makes me wonder how she would treat me if we were dating. Oh and another thing She is always saying how she "hates" people. anyone who knows me knows I joke around in really offensive ways. I tell racists jokes and sexist jokes and spousal abuse jokes and the whole like(I work in a very multi-cultural environment it is sort of standard fare, its how we all get along is by making fun of each other) I know when she says "hate" she really means dosent like, but I would never say I hated someone it just seems so terrible. Is that just something insecure people do? is it ever outgrown? or am I just being a big sissy?
LostLamb Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Oh and another thing She is always saying how she "hates" people. anyone who knows me knows I joke around in really offensive ways. I tell racists jokes and sexist jokes and spousal abuse jokes and the whole like(I work in a very multi-cultural environment it is sort of standard fare, its how we all get along is by making fun of each other) I know when she says "hate" she really means dosent like, but I would never say I hated someone it just seems so terrible. ? You sound like the perfect matching couple......
Author I'm Joe Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Ya I know it seems harsh. I guess you would have to really know me to have proper context but when I joke I only do it to people I know well and it is very apparent than I am just kidding around. I a lot of my close friends are black or mexican (i am as white as can be) its is just how we joke with each other. The point of saying that was just to point out that I do have the ability to discern the difference between mean spirited and playful.
Author I'm Joe Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 This ultimately boils down to being a shameless bump, but it just occurred to me that my mother has always said "women hate women." My mom is a simple lady but I think there might be some hidden wisdom in there.. maybe it is just some kind of defense mechanism to shoot down my interest in other people and keep it focused on her. Perhaps she thinks she can convince me that all other people are disgusting and she is just right for me. Now I am re-thinking all of the one line sayings my mother has told me all my life. maybe there is more rolling around in her noggin than I had previously assumed.
ruggy Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Brother. Most chicks are crazy. Its just part of the game. Its the hold and cold syndrome.
knaveman Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 They're all crazy. It just matters how much crazy you can put up with. Saying crazy woman is like saying wet water.
Surfer Dude Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Wait a second, she attends church and treats people like sh*t? Yeah, that figures. NEVER, EVER be with a woman who clearly lacks empathy and takes joy in insulting other people, because she will start insulting you too (she already has, actually). I was once with a girl who hated poor people, homeless people, ugly people, fat people... she is also the type who would take advantage of people around her, was extremely ego-centric.... You get the picture. You can try to condition this kind of DISRESPECTFUL and UNACCEPTABLE behavior, although you can also drop her if it's too much work. Just don't let her get away with it, because it sets precedent for further bad behavior. Some girls do it just because they can and wanna see if they can get away with it, in fact some WANT you to get them in order. You can say something like this, with a calm voice and a steely gaze: "The way you are behaving and talking is completely unacceptable and disrespectful. I do not accept your BULLSH*T behavior, it's a problem on your part, and unless you fix it, I will be gone forever and you will be lonely, and that will all be your fault."
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