MissDee Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 So... there's this really cute guy in one my classes who sits behind me and about 4 rows away from me. I always catch him looking at me during class and he's caught me looking at him as well. Today, after class, I was taking a while to get my things together to leave... so it SEEMED like he was stalling, so we would leave at the same time. What I mean by this was that he got up, got his things, and then stood in line to talk to the teacher. Then, the second I started making my way to the door, he looked at me and followed me out... making it seem like he was going to talk to me. As we're walking through the hallway he's about a foot behind me. I'm waiting anxiously for his voice to perk up and say something to me or start to walk next to me but... nothing. As we get out of the main hallway, I make a left to go up some stairs while he keeps walking straight... not a word was exchanged. What's with this guy, do you think he'll approach me or am I just being way too hopeful? We've already had this class 3 other times and he hasn't tried to approach me those other times, but he's always looking at me (or so I think)... is he just working up some courage or what?
I'm Joe Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 It sounds like he is interested.. He is probably nervous as hell. especially if you guys are in High School, Help him out. Say hi to him, find anything you can to have little chats with him. if you see he is trying to leave at the same time you are make sure he does. The more comfortable he is around you the easier it will be for him to ask you out. I remember school asking the ladies out was about the most nerve racking thing you could do. Give it a little time.
Author MissDee Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 We're in college... we're both Juniors too. Usually classes meet twice a week but this particular class only meets once a week, so I have the anticipation of a 6 day wait in between classes. If he's trying to approach me then it's really cute because he's 21 and still struggling to approach a girl. I'm a sucker for shy guys. But, that is IF he's trying to approach me.
I'm Joe Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Ahh! College.. Well he could still be nervous. the same advice applies. get more comfortable with him and he will get more comfortable with you. plus maybe in chatting with him you will be able to tell what his intentions are before he makes a move. or maybe you will find out he is crazy and thank God you dodged a bullet!
kashmir Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 This sounds almost exactly like me. I do this sort of thing with girls all the time in class. It just takes a few times to finally say "screw it" and actually break the ice. He wants to talk to you, but he's shy. You can either take the lead yourself or just encourage him a bit by giving him a smile. I'm waiting anxiously for his voice to perk up and say something to me or start to walk next to me but... nothing. From a guy's perspective, it's VERY relieving to hear this.
BCCA Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 From personal experience, I've been in his shoes, and it's nerve racking to say the least. You have to share a class with him, and people can be really mean. He's probably trying to work past the fear of hearing 'get lost, loser', and looking for a good opportunity. Honestly, to this day, I don't know what to say to women I see out in public. Sure, sometimes it just comes together, but if this is the third class, he's probably thinking about it between classes, and keeps psyching himself out. And he may take occasionally catching you looking at him as the opposite, and be embarrased. There is nothing worse than trying to sneak a peak at a cute girl, and getting caught in the act. You can wait for him, and maybe he'll say something someday, but I can promise you that you'll find out everything you need to know in 5 minutes if you strike up a conversation with him when class is getting out next week. Say anything, hey like your backpack, seriously, anything. If he perks up to talk to you, or looks shyly at his shoes when he responds, there you go. Truth be told, men are pretty easy to read. He thinks you're cute, but I won't pretend to know his life story. Just make an opening and see what happens.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 why dont you just make it easier on him and strike up a convo. Dont you like him?
Trialbyfire Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 The next time he's so close behind you, just turn around, smile and say "Hi". Break the ice and see where it leads you. Worst case scenario is that he won't ask you out but you've made a contact in class. Come on, try it!
Author MissDee Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Haha, I'm not one to approach guys. I always wait for them to approach me. If by the last class he still hasn't approached me then I will approach him though. For instance, about two years ago, this guy waited until the FINAL to ask for my number. We flirted with our eyes across the room the entire semester, which was basically a huge tease and totally built up the moment we finally spoke to each other. Its much more fun to do that then to just approach them up front like that - adds more excitement and mystery to everything.
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