GIZMO Posted October 3, 2003 Posted October 3, 2003 For the full story please read Lost love.. I am so upset right now!!!!!!!!!!! I went to my ex house to pick up a few of my belongings that I had left there.. Anyways, The phone rang, and for some reason I felt I needed to answer the phone.. Well, when I said Hello, the person hung up on me. So I hit star 69 and called the number back.. Well it was this girl who I work with!!!!!!!!!!! She is 23 years old and my ex is 33!!!!!!! What the hell is that first off??? When my ex came home, I asked him point blank if there was something going on with them.. He told me no, he said they only talk on the phone maybe once a week for a few minutes and they talk about work stuff ( he works with me as well, and him and that girl are in the same dept ) anyways, he said they also talk about how he feels about me and the break up.. He said that she was once engaged to a man and she broke it off with him after 5 years of being together, so she knows how it feels to be in his shoes.. I don't know if I buy that story or not... He has never cheated on me before, he usually tells me the truth, but her calling my old apt!!!!!!! What the hell is that??? Anyways, I called her back after I hit star 69 and she would not answer her phone. I still have her # and I just want to tell her in a nice way, that she does not need to hang up on me, I know she could never have him, and if they ever got together.. well, more power to you, becasue you are a little girl with no morals!!!!!!!!!! What do you guys think? Do you think there is something more going on with him??? I asked my ex if they go out and do things together he said no as well.. I asked why she hung up then, and he said she is probable just uncomfortabe... You tell me.. What do you guys think of this?? I really miss him, and I want him back.. I feel he is the one for me.. I guess I do beleive in fate and I beleive we are meant for one another... I don't want to be with anyone else.. I hate not sleeping next to him, I hate everything about this mess, I want him to want me back, and I handled the situation with him well, I was very calm, and only shead a couple of tears.. Please help me and give me some advise.. Please. .I have been with him for 7 years and engaged to him for a year.. I am in so much pain right now.. I just want to crawl into bed and never leave my bedr oom.. .
moimeme Posted October 3, 2003 Posted October 3, 2003 Unfortunately, you can't make somebody love you. Bonnie Raitt did a great song which is perfect to listen to when you're miserable over a love lost (this is just a clip): http://www.amazon.ca/exec/obidos/clipserve/B000002UXM001003/702-3276664-7404869 Loss is horrible to go through. It's going to hurt like hell. Try to be good to yourself. Spend time with your friends and family and be sure you eat well and take care of yourself. It's crushing and awful and miserable but it does pass. You need to grieve so don't try to stop yourself from doing so, but give yourself breaks when you can by doing things you like to do with people you enjoy. You will get through this. We all have.
Author GIZMO Posted October 3, 2003 Author Posted October 3, 2003 I have never felt so lost before.. I do not know what is up and what is down. Sometimes I don't even understand why I am on this earth.. I just don't get it.. All's I did was love this man.. What did I do wrong.. 7 years later and then you decided you want someone else?? After I wrote all of this I went back to my old apt, and he never came home, which leads be to believe he is with that girl I work with! I still have not went to bed.. I have been up all night crying.. And I have to be to work in less then 2 hours!!!! I am going to see about taking some time off work.. I am scared I may go after this girl and my ex and loose my job... I am just beyond help right now, I think...............
LadyX Posted October 3, 2003 Posted October 3, 2003 After reading both of your threads....it sounds like this man has been giving you very loud hints as to whats been going on. Only now are you starting to put 2 and 2 together. It's not necessarily something you did, or didn't do. Sometimes people just grow apart, the things that once made them happy, no longer do. From experience, women have very strong intuition, some tend to ignore what's right in their faces. Open your eyes, see the truth for what it is, don't humiliate yourself by chasing this man, let it go, and move on with your life.
Author GIZMO Posted October 3, 2003 Author Posted October 3, 2003 Yeah, I know he is with that other girl.. It makes sense that woman tend to ignore things that happen right in front of there face... I know things got bad between us, but I don't understand why I still feel he is the one for me.. I mean, I know I was with him for so long, but, he is also my best Friend. He is the only one I ever let really get to know the REAL me... Does this hurt ever get easier? Also, why will my ex not tell me he is with this girl that I work with?? Which, by the way, don't you think that is a little cruel? Dating someone I work with?????? Give me a break. I mean, I want him to be happy, I really do, but not with someone I work with, and not so soon.. Maybe I am selfish, I don't know.. Will this hurt really get better as each day passes????
moimeme Posted October 3, 2003 Posted October 3, 2003 It won't get better that fast. Some days, you'll start feeling better and then the next day feel bad all over again. However, it does pass after a while.
Author GIZMO Posted October 3, 2003 Author Posted October 3, 2003 This sucks thats all I know.. I do not think I will ever let myself fall in love again.. I would be way to scared I would feel this way again...
Author GIZMO Posted October 4, 2003 Author Posted October 4, 2003 Has anyone ever thought of just leaving this world? Life is just so hard, and if it is not one thing, it is another.. Life is so much work, and I feel like I am giving up now.. I have never in my life thought so serious about just calling everything quits.. I just don't know what else to do..
LadyX Posted October 4, 2003 Posted October 4, 2003 Don't be rediculous. Your putting to much importance on this one person. It's not the end of the world. Ten years from now you'll look back and wonder what all the fuss was about. Life is a journey....bumpy roads and all. Just take it day by day. Each day it will get a little better.
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