IcemanJB Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 You mean you might need their help one day? I would have like to have stayed friends with my ex but he started new relationship so soon and was very angry with me. Could do with his help right now so I am strting to think you are right:laugh: Sure, they could help....booty call...wait, what? In all seriousness, you never know if you'll need a favor from them some day. If they think highly of you, that could pay dividends if they talk to people with whom you might start a friendship or relationship someday. They'll say good things about you. You just never know how it could work in your favor. No use causing drama...UNLESS she was evil and flat out nasty.
Author Template Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 UNLESS she was evil and flat out nasty. ummm.. you do remember of the breakup right? Needed to go ER... didn't want to take me... kicked me out of the house because I called her evil for it. I think that qualifies as evil and flat out nasty.
Trialbyfire Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Sorry for the thread-jack but Iceman, has anyone ever told you that you remind them of a young Kiefer Sutherland? Template, that's pretty messed up if she's a psych-major. Bullet-proof yourself, from the top of your head, to the tip of your toes. A crazy woman you should avoid. NC all the way no matter what she says, while praying to whomever is watching over you, thanks, thanks, thanks for setting me free!
Author Template Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 I also want to add that even though hating someone takes a lot of energy that you don't need to waste, it does have a way of keeping things in perspective. You can't allow yourself to forget what happened between you two. If you think about it, would a reconciliation ever work with the amount of anger you have for her. The trust has been completely torn down. Its extremely hard to rebuild. I'm not saying you want her back, but lets be realistic....for almost every person that suffered a break up on this forum, I think everyone, even if just slightly, thought they might reconcile. I wouldn't think reconciliation is possible. The only way is if she is a totally different person, and so am I. So maybe 5-10 years down the road if the timing is right perhaps. Who know. I'm trying to be the ever optimist. Maybe I'm just angry in that I thought, for a smidgen that she actually regretted what she did. That she would take some responsibility of the blame for the breakup (she says it's all me, even though we all know it takes 2). That maybe, just maybe, of all her relationships, she actually learned that she may have a hand in all of the failures she had, and maybe think that she should improve as a person. And that maybe I am thinking to optimistically of her, when I should see her as the B*I*T*C*H she really is.
kizik Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hey Temp, let me begin by saying that you of all people have a right to hate your ex. The way she treated you in your time of need (which was literally a possible matter of life and death) deserves your hatred. But hatred, besides being a waste of energy as many smart people here have pointed out, means going to a very dark and evil place. Wishing bad on someone. Allowing them to occupy your thoughts in a negative way and to make you miserable. Life is far too short for this. I'm gonna say what I say to everyone: for now, you have to block out thoughts of her. You will feel the negativity creeping in (you know that sick feeling in your stomach), but instead of giving into it, you need to immediately switch to better thoughts. My recommendation is to transport yourself mentally to a time when you were very happy without her. Preferably, before you met her. My happy place involves a beach in Costa Rica. Good luck and email me anytime.
LostLamb Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Sure, they could help....booty call...wait, what? In all seriousness, you never know if you'll need a favor from them some day. If they think highly of you, that could pay dividends if they talk to people with whom you might start a friendship or relationship someday. They'll say good things about you. You just never know how it could work in your favor. No use causing drama...UNLESS she was evil and flat out nasty. I'm not the booty call type and my ex hates my guts! I suppose it depends on why you broke up and how linked your life are. I have disappered from ex's life totally for now. His family and friends hated me so I could be dead for all he knows:rolleyes: Hate is a natural part of being human at times. Most people can't resist a piece of cake so I think we are asking too much when telling people not to hate people. As long as it doesn't lead to standing outside of someone's house at 4 am with a match:) LS is full of balanced , perfect people. Hope I am when I grow up!
IcemanJB Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Sorry for the thread-jack but Iceman, has anyone ever told you that you remind them of a young Kiefer Sutherland? Template, that's pretty messed up if she's a psych-major. Bullet-proof yourself, from the top of your head, to the tip of your toes. A crazy woman you should avoid. NC all the way no matter what she says, while praying to whomever is watching over you, thanks, thanks, thanks for setting me free! Yes. On Monday my buddy's girlfriend said that to me while we were all watching '24'. Template, I said earlier you have every right to not give two ****s about her. What I was saying was some people just create unnecessary drama and burn bridges for no reason.
mark982 Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 let's see my ex wife, cheated 2x, gave me the clap,tried to stab me---did draw alittle blood.stole $$, from me,ran up bills in my name(after we seperated)mother f'ed my mom to her face,in general she's just a swell woman. wonder if she'd go deer hunting with me?
Author Template Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 let's see my ex wife, cheated 2x, gave me the clap,tried to stab me---did draw alittle blood.stole $$, from me,ran up bills in my name(after we seperated)mother f'ed my mom to her face,in general she's just a swell woman. wonder if she'd go deer hunting with me? Wow.. In perspective, I guess my ex was mother Theresa. NOT!! I'm not into comparing, but my ex and yours are probably long lost twin sisters.
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