surgngnl Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I've recently reconnected with an old friend from my youth and I'm on the fence about dating him. We're not in the "relationship" phase quite yet but I know we're headed there quickly. He is obviously very smitten with me and lets me know it often. I like him quite a bit, but the problem is that I'm not feeling that (for lack of a better word) spark when I'm with him or when I'm thinking about him. He's perfect for me, is a brilliant, handsome, funny guy, but I don't know if my feelings will grow or if this is a sign that he's not the one for me. Any advice, insight or past experiences to share? I need to decide if I'm going to take this furthur soon. Thanks!
BCCA Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Can I ask a couple questions before I give my answer? This sounds very familiar to a friend of mine's story. Have you been single for a long while? Would you even consider this guy if you had someone else you were even somewhat in to?
Author surgngnl Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 BCCA, I've been single for about 3 years on my own accord. I haven't wanted to date anyone in order to get myself straight and comfortable in my own skin. As for being interested even if there was someone else I was interested in, I think so, but I can't say for sure. He's so wonderful in so many ways, but I don't know that I would think about him in a relationship kind of way if there was someone else that I was into. Maybe this thing between me and him is manifesting BECAUSE I'm single and open for him to try and woo me? I'm interested in where you're going with this and these questions. Do tell.
zhsoj Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I'd like to say "give him a chance". But then I'm currently in the reverse situation with the girl I've been "seeing" (i.e. I'm interested in her, but she doesn't seem that interested in me), and it's absolutely infuriating to get mixed signals and not know where I stand with her. I'm not sure what I'd recommend for you to do, but I can say the worst thing is to give off mixed signals. I'd rather be given a real chance or be told I have none at all so that I don't have to constantly question what I'm doing. I hate ambiguity. Guess I'm insecure that way...
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