SophieA Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 My LDR hasn't offically started yet. My bf doesn't leave for another few months...but I have noticed lately I have been feeling anxious and sort of hurt. I guess I've been feeling sort of abandoned. We've been together for over 5 years, usually see eachother 3 or 4 times a week. We've been through a whole hell of a lot together. I know he is leaving b/c has to, not b/c he wants to be far away. (He's going to med school. And he has asked me to join him, which I can not do at this time for many reasons.) Does anyone else feel like this? I don't want it to cause problems b/c I fully support him in following his dreams...but at the same time...I feel what I feel. I can't really help feeling it. Any suggestions on how to overcome this feeling so it doesn't turn ugly?
Seerubyfall Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Hi Sophie, I totally understand what you're going through. My advice, for what it's worth, is to be completely and totally honest with eachother. I tell fiance everything I'm feeling about our relationship, and vice versa, so that nothing festers. It makes for some interesting conversations sometimes, but I think it's totally worth it. Also, this means that every once in a while you get to call him up and open with "I feel neglected" in a real whiney voice... Good luck! Ruby
Ashbash11 Posted February 21, 2009 Posted February 21, 2009 Hi Sophie I am in the same situation that you will be in soon... My BF and I haven't been together quite AS long (only 1 year) But we dated for 8 months and lived in the same city, then he took a job 3,000 miles away and left me here... I resented him at first, and wondered: "How could he do this to me? How could he force us to do long distance like this?" However, I realized that the job was a great opportunity for him and it would be a mistake not to take it. Sometimes you have to put your career/school first, I think. The long distance is REALLY hard, but it's manageable. You just need to find a routine, and you will be okay. My best advice for you: When he leaves, seek support in your friends and family. Go out and keep yourself BUSY! Take up a new hobby, or activity. Don't sulk or stay angry at him for leaving. That will surely be the demise of your relationship. Just accept the situation and keep yourself as happy as possible.
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