Fiaman Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Why would a my ex (a girl) be Facestalking me? I have a tracker that keeps tabs on who and when they visit and have seen her look at my profile a lot lately. She has a new boyfriend. Why would she be doing this? (haven't talked to her in 1.5 months)
Geishawhelk Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 She just wants to keep up with what you're doing... she's keeping you on the touchline in case her current situatrion doesn't pan out. She's holding you as an option - Plan 'B' if you like. The one to come back to as, and when, and if, current beau is shyte. *think whiney voice*: "Oh, I'm sorry, I think I made a mistake, I still love you really, I thought maybe we could try again...." Note: She will still do this even if you find/'create' a GF to put her off.
whichwayisup Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Change your fb settings so she can't see your profile. Or, block her.
sad_panda Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 How did you get that tracker? I thought Facebook doesn't have a tracker?
Art_Critic Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Change your fb settings so she can't see your profile. Or, block her. ahhh.. yeah.. Why people even bother to keep their ex's on their friendlist is beyond me.. oh that's right.. they want the ex to facestalk them Delete her if you have a problem with her looking at your page.. leaving her on as a friend gives her the security to look at your page..
Author Fiaman Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 How did you get that tracker? I thought Facebook doesn't have a tracker? Actually a Myspace tracker but the two sites go hand in hand. I havent been on myspace for a while and it seems like whenevr a new girl comments on my wall on Facebook is when she checks my Myspace.
Author Fiaman Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 ahhh.. yeah.. Why people even bother to keep their ex's on their friendlist is beyond me.. oh that's right.. they want the ex to facestalk them Delete her if you have a problem with her looking at your page.. leaving her on as a friend gives her the security to look at your page.. Yea I took her off my friends list couple weeks ago so I wouldnt check her profiles anymore (hers are private). My profiles are public, she can check mine all she wants for all I care. I really feel as if in the next month or so I will be indifferent about her (hopefully no setbacks). Always thinking about why I shouldn't be with her and all the **** she put me through really helps me realize that I am better off without her.
audrey_1 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 My ex and I were complete tools who went back and forth blocking each other on Facebook. He was the last to do it back in December, when I lashed out at him for being dishonest with me about seeing someone else. We were LDR. She was local. Nice. One day I noticed him in the "People You May Know" tool and nearly jumped out of my chair. He had changed his profile picture to my favorite photo of him from a skiing trip. Whatever. He sent me a random phone message one day, then sent me an email that was business-related. I told him I noticed he had un-blocked me from Facebook, but that I didn't want to be friends with him again on the site. He was annoyed but didn't say anything. His page is basically a collection of his ex-girlfriends and future hopefuls. I have no need to be a part of his sick obsession. My life is no longer ANY of his beeswax.
Zapbasket Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Wait a sec, how do myspace and facebook go hand in hand? I check people out on Facebook all the time, feeling secure that there's no way they can tell how many times I look at their page. Am I wrong in this? As for why your ex stalks you, don't read too much into it. Why wouldn't you continue to be curious about anyone who once played a big role in your life? No one just "forgets" someone. I stalk people all the time; it's just a way of enhancing my memories, coming to a better understanding of people who were in my life so that I, in turn, can come to a better understanding of myself. It doesn't mean I want to have interactions in the present with these people, necessarily. Don't sweat it. If you don't want to drop her as a fbook friend but don't want her to see all you're up to, enter her name under "privacy settings" as someone whom you would prefer not to be able to see your profile info. She'll still get to see your page, but new pics, etc., she won't be able to see.
Author Fiaman Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Wait a sec, how do myspace and facebook go hand in hand? I check people out on Facebook all the time, feeling secure that there's no way they can tell how many times I look at their page. Am I wrong in this? What I mean is... I never update my Myspace but Facebook I do. Whenever you go on to Facebook, chances are you will check out your Myspace too. Facebook is more popular than Myspace so when I see her check out my Myspace, chances are she has been looking at my Facebook too since it gets updated.
Author Fiaman Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 As for why your ex stalks you, don't read too much into it. Why wouldn't you continue to be curious about anyone who once played a big role in your life? No one just "forgets" someone. I stalk people all the time; it's just a way of enhancing my memories, coming to a better understanding of people who were in my life so that I, in turn, can come to a better understanding of myself. It doesn't mean I want to have interactions in the present with these people, necessarily. I have come to the realization that she is still immature. Before I found out she had a new BF she had been regularily been hanging out with me and go to concerts and stuff. When I found out she had a BF, she said "she's going out with him to get over me and still wants to be with me, just later on" (terrible false hope right there ) She's now "in love" with this guy. Before I did NC, she said she wanted to be friends and I said "Yea but we wont be able to hang out all the time like we have been" and she said "Yea we would, I still want to".... OK NOW TELL ME what you see wrong here! Also, It's ironic how ever since girls started showing interest on my wall, is when she started to facestalk me again.
sad_panda Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 What I mean is... I never update my Myspace but Facebook I do. Whenever you go on to Facebook, chances are you will check out your Myspace too. Facebook is more popular than Myspace so when I see her check out my Myspace, chances are she has been looking at my Facebook too since it gets updated. Ah what, so all this is just based on a "chance" that maybe she looked at your Facebook? Aren't you being too assuming?
Zapbasket Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I agree with you Fiaman, she sounds like someone who wants you on HER terms and expects you to just be available for her. Doesn't sound like very good relationship material! So enjoy being sought after by so many other women and look forward to beginning a relationship with someone who *truly* has what you need. (And phew! on the fbook thing. I'd be mortified to discover people actually had a page tracker on their fbook sites....)
Author Fiaman Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Ah what, so all this is just based on a "chance" that maybe she looked at your Facebook? Aren't you being too assuming? I can guarantee... either way she is for sure then "Mystalking" me
Author Fiaman Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 I agree with you Fiaman, she sounds like someone who wants you on HER terms and expects you to just be available for her. Doesn't sound like very good relationship material! So enjoy being sought after by so many other women and look forward to beginning a relationship with someone who *truly* has what you need. (And phew! on the fbook thing. I'd be mortified to discover people actually had a page tracker on their fbook sites....) Good words to hear! Thanks Green-C
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