Sweet326 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Well, I go to court in a little while to finalize my divorce. My SO is the only person I've heard from today and he said he will be thinking about me and to let him know how things go. That meant so much. Even though there is not a doubt in my mind that this is what I want to do, I feel so sad. After spending almost 16 years with someone and having a child together it feels like I'm grieving. The only thing I want right now is to feel my SO's arms around me and it kills me that he is so far away.
KikiW Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I'm SO SORRY I know I will be facing that day myself at some point, and I can only hope my LDR will have already moved here so he can console me, because I know I will be all sorts of tweaked out about it. Good luck, and try and contact your SO as soon as possible. I am sure he will make you feel better. I feel very dorkish saying this, but if I could give you a hug myself, I so would. It will get better, and everything will be ok.
Author Sweet326 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Thanks Kiki, that meant so much. Have you filed already? It's hard, all day I felt like someone had died! Will definitely be thinking of you when you go through it and I hope your SO is there when it happens. Unfortunately, we had to reschedule because of how things were worded in the decree. So, now it will be 3/25. Did talk to my SO last night and that always makes everything all better! Would be so much nicer to see his face and feel his arms around me, but I see him on Wed!!!!
Author Sweet326 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Kiki: How long had you known your SO and how much time had you spent together before he decided to move to you? I'm having a really hard day missing my SO and think what makes it harder is that I don't see an end in sight. He has brought up me moving down there a couple of times. After he brought it up last time I figured it was a good opportunity to talk about us being together. I agree it's too soon to make that decision (only known each other less than 4 months), but wanted to let him know that I worried about what would happen if we did decide to be together. I let him know that I probably could not come there because of custody arrangement. He said he is not worried because he knows when that time comes we will find a way. He is coming here after we meet in Cancun and then he wants me & my daughter to spend at least a month down there this summer. I hope after spending time together this summer we can talk more of being together. This is so hard!!! When did you and your SO start talking about being together permanently?
KikiW Posted February 20, 2009 Posted February 20, 2009 We have not filed yet. We just met with a mediator last Friday, and it went really well, but I can tell it will be a long process because I can't afford to move out and I don't think my husband can afford to support me (and I don't want him to be totally stressed). I have known my SO for almost a year, but we didn't get serious until the summer. It moved pretty quickly from there. I don't know if he would admit how early he was contemplating moving, but I suspect it was a lot earlier than he told me. It was a lot of taking it step by step and seeing how things went along the way... and as time went on the probabilities just kept getting higher. Right now the thing holding us back is HIS divorce. His ex is a psycho, and will likely drag things out
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