SwtSangria Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 It's been a pretty difficult 6 months for me. I broke up with my boyfriend of a year, and whom I was living with, last September. I joined eHarmony and then completely changed my career path. A little less then a month into this big career change I met a guy off of eHarmony...he was bi-polar and had moved from MA to IN in order to help his g/f, then ex, with her monetary problems. Yes, big red flags, but we met and I was smitten. This "relationship" thing went on for a few months and then the rollercoaster of emotional turmoil derailed. He paid for a whole year of eHarmony for me and now I've met another guy. I'm still speaking with the first guy and am still attracted to him, but I know he probably isn't the best choice for long term material. I've always said that I want a long term companion and the new guy demonstrates many, many great qualities that are necessary for a successful relationship but I want to run in the opposite direction. He has told me, already, that he is attracted to me and that he is really, really interested, but I'm freaked. What's the deal? Am I so idiotic that I cannot stop having feelings for someone that doesn't even care about me or do I purposely pursue relationships that are doomed to fail?
Geishawhelk Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 What you do is end it with Mr. Bi-Polar and pay him back the subscription money, and then pursue Mr B., but get counselling for your derailment issues. Sorted. NEXT-!!
BCCA Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 purposely pursue relationships that are doomed to fail I think this is usually a result of being so hung up on finding SOMEONE that you start to second guess your own judgement. You let red flags go, you talk yourself into thinking that potential problems wont be an issue, and you really lower or modify your standards to fit whoever you meet. He paid for a whole year of eHarmony for me Was he not interested or did he feel like he wasted your time? Because to me, that sounds like a 'just go away' move. He paid for you to meet other guys. Doesn't sound like he was really that interested.
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