yamaharoland Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 One month in. Share a bed for the night cause I live outta town. Talking, cuddling, making out, but no sex. Do girls usually think that the guy is: A. respectful/non- sketch and wants to take it slow / leave the physical pace up to the girl B. not interested C. scared to initiate I'm A and afraid it's giving off B or C. I'm the guy. Thoughts? Should I say something like this next time we are together? Better in person than on phone I imagine right? "Just so you know, I am very much attracted to you--I just like taking it slow and getting to know you before we jump into sex, and I like to leave the physical pace up to you so I know I'm not being pushy. Are you happy with how things are progressing so far?"
Geishawhelk Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I wouldn't mention it at all, unless she comments. Then all you have to do, is tell her that you respect her a great deal and would never presume to get physical with her unless you knew she was willing to do so. One of two things will happen: she will let you know in no uncertain terms, there and then, that she is very ready - or - You'll end up waiting a year. But I doubt it!
Author yamaharoland Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 haha im just afraid she'll walk away cause she's frustrated. i posted this question up at plentyoffish's forums as well, and they all pushed for bringing it up. just wanted to get the LS peoples' opinions too. never can have enough opinions!
movingonandon Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I personally never understood the sleeping in the same bed but no sex situation (unless you're literally passing out drunk after night out of town...), but obviously it happens all the time. I wouldn't mention it, but the next time you make out it's probably a good idea to go all the way and just see whad'appens.
Art_Critic Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Go with the flow dude.. Don't just sit back and try to read her mind.. push some boundaries some.. in other words.. if presented with the opportunity to make a move then make one and if she isn't comfortable then back off and respect her.. In my world you doing nothing isn't necessarily just showing respect for her wishes as you don't know what those wishes are. You do need to respect her boundaries however when she shows them to you. Go with the flow.. I think the situation alone will lend itself to your answer...
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