ForumFool Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I am very tempted to out my liar and cheating husband TO to his family about his secret life of credit cards....online sex sites...online affairs ...you know those sites like something on the side.......He has borrowed mega bucks from very old parents and hasn't paid them back......owes the IRS ......didn't buy his grandchild a Christmas gift....so much........and yet paid on credit cards he had hidden from me .....he has been having a 2 year hey day on the net and maybe off... If/when I leave..I wonder if I do not tell them what a worm he is ..if I will look like the bad guy...or should I care???? I am not super close to them ...I could just let him squirm...... I find it creepy and semi funny the creep used all MY intrests, singers and such as if they were his own to chat with other women......and try to score.....he has bough whips , chains so much odd stuff ......smokes cigs left and right, lies and sez he doesnt ...yet......I have to live like a pauper.....makes me kinda mad.....I was also half thinking of putting up a webpage of him in cross dressing attire........and his emails... I did screen shots of them..his real name.....OR do I need to just leave this be? He is not sorry.....said he was but he always is sorry when he gets caught at porn, lying or stealing from a store..Dude is messed up...and what I find creepy is he looked at me and said "WHY CAN'T I HAVE ONE OF YOUR AOL ACCOUNTS AND A PASSWORD?" I said because DUH YOU WOULD DO JUST WHAT YOU WERE BUSTED DOING
LakesideDream Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Are you leaving him? If you are what's the point?
Reggie Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I'd disclose regardless of staying or leaving. It may give him some consequences and he may get help. Just like alcoholics, these folks almost never change on their own.
carhill Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Full page ad in the newspaper. Total annihilation Do you live in an "at fault" divorce state? I remember what Sara Evans did to her ex. Outed him but good
Author ForumFool Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Are you leaving him? If you are what's the point? Hi I am leaving only IF (I am working on this now) I have a way to pay for my medical needs....thats in a whole nother thread I would tell only for 3 reasons...1 revenge 2 because I could have a whole group of people have no clue why I would leave this nice guy and he would only lie to them..right now they think he lost his job for 1 reason but he was really fired after 30 plus years..... and 3 because I will if I leave never see them again and would want them to know I care and why I had to go .....and have to cut contact...maybe other reasons I don't know but thats most of them off the top of my head
Author ForumFool Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 I'd disclose regardless of staying or leaving. It may give him some consequences and he may get help. Just like alcoholics, these folks almost never change on their own. Thank you Reggie that makes a lot of what I call sane sense I have never told anyone he knows about what he has done to me and them over 14 years......they think he is a saint I kid you not. He did go to therapy once with me and lied ...the next one he just sat their mad ....one he threatened to hit me if I talked on certain subjects..I dont want to look like the bad guy and most likely will if I dont let X amount of people know .....backed with fact...His old mom and dad I dunno.....I may if I talk water it down they dont need the grief......?
Author ForumFool Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Full page ad in the newspaper. Total annihilation Do you live in an "at fault" divorce state? I remember what Sara Evans did to her ex. Outed him but good :laugh::D:lmao: Your sense of revenge and humor crack me up...I am a lot like you.....I do not know yet if I am in an at fault state .......how does one know?? I am waiting for legal aide ..they weren't in today when I called.....they may advise me to shut up and stay...... DO TELL hahaha who is Sara Evans...sounds like a heroine to me
Kamikaze Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I am very tempted to out my liar and cheating husband TO to his family about his secret life of credit cards....online sex sites...online affairs ...you know those sites like something on the side.......He has borrowed mega bucks from very old parents and hasn't paid them back......owes the IRS ......didn't buy his grandchild a Christmas gift....so much........and yet paid on credit cards he had hidden from me .....he has been having a 2 year hey day on the net and maybe off... If/when I leave..I wonder if I do not tell them what a worm he is ..if I will look like the bad guy...or should I care???? I am not super close to them ...I could just let him squirm...... I find it creepy and semi funny the creep used all MY intrests, singers and such as if they were his own to chat with other women......and try to score.....he has bough whips , chains so much odd stuff ......smokes cigs left and right, lies and sez he doesnt ...yet......I have to live like a pauper.....makes me kinda mad.....I was also half thinking of putting up a webpage of him in cross dressing attire........and his emails... I did screen shots of them..his real name.....OR do I need to just leave this be? He is not sorry.....said he was but he always is sorry when he gets caught at porn, lying or stealing from a store..Dude is messed up...and what I find creepy is he looked at me and said "WHY CAN'T I HAVE ONE OF YOUR AOL ACCOUNTS AND A PASSWORD?" I said because DUH YOU WOULD DO JUST WHAT YOU WERE BUSTED DOING Hey, Put it all on YouTube - who knows maybe CNN will pick it up and you can be on Good Morning America! Kami
Author ForumFool Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Lol Kami it would be a cool and easy way to get some bank to leave his ass :lmao::lmao: I have tons of emails and even chat logs...pics of him as a cd with whips all around.....credit card info with his purschaes and and email from ex school chum who he met for breakfast 2 times talking about music and the fun they had meeting behind my back.....I feel like posting her name she is on facebook too ...has a family.....pillar of her community......though he is the one I am vexed with...and amused by because far as I can tell he was just fleeced by a lot of webcam girls who fake they are looking for some on the side...but right now have a need for some cash and as 3 of them said " shhhhh ...I do web shots and dances on the side to help pay for school...wanna see" Maybe I would be all over TV .....getting mega bucks and burning his arse
whichwayisup Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Question is, if you OUT him to his family and expose all his dirty secrets are YOU prepared for the drama and fallout? Will you regret doing this to him and his INNOCENT family? Will you be able to sleep at night peacefully and look yourself in the mirror knowing you did the right thing? Think before you spill it.
Author ForumFool Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 Question is, if you OUT him to his family and expose all his dirty secrets are YOU prepared for the drama and fallout? Will you regret doing this to him and his INNOCENT family? Will you be able to sleep at night peacefully and look yourself in the mirror knowing you did the right thing? Think before you spill it. I know it is like I fight between an angel on my shoulder and the devil......but part of me sez...HE DID IT not me......and I could look at my face in the mirror very easy if I did it to school chums and such...Mom and dad I dunno........Showing the pics would be very hard on them....seeing the pics I mean...but telling them I am leaving (should I be able too) and why ..he is a liar and cheat and I have proof ..I think I could do that and feel very justified......but I am in no rush.........still it is tempting
carhill Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 OP, Sara Evans is a country music singer. When the information below came out in the press, she was performing on "Dancing with the Stars" on U.S. TV. This was back in 2006. She has remarried. Tennessee, where she resided, is an "at fault" state. Here's a synopsis from MSNBC: Among the claims made by Evans in the filed documents are: Evans alleges that <husband> “has frequently verbually abused, emotionally abused and harassed Wife.”Evans alleges that <husband> “frequently watches pornography” on the family’s computers and that on September 28, 2006, the couple’s oldest child “confronted [husband] at the parties’ residence… when he was watching pornographic material on the television.”Evans claims that <husband> keeps more than 100 photos of <husband> “posing with his erect penis” and “there are several photographs showing the defendant having sex with other women.” Evans also alleges that <husband> browsed personal ads on the Internet site Craig’s List for “three party sex” and “anal sex.” ---------------- IIRC, she also accused her exH of infidelity with a former nanny... Listen to WWIU and think carefully before airing your H's dirty laundry publicly (even to friends and family). Things can take interesting and unexpected twists... Your local court and/or a paralegal or lawyer can tell you if your state allows at-fault actions to be filed. AFAIK, only a few states do not offer no-fault divorces. Some allow both. There are charts on the internet which may be of assistance.
Author ForumFool Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 mega rotflmao CARHILL on the American Idol chick....I didn't know about that ...good for her.....I will sit on my hands for now and behave,.......till I see a lawyer.....all my info is stashed safely away.....but it is soooooo tempting.... I have been thinking of changing his yahoo account password ...he hasnt been able to get at it since I was in ....I have screen shots and all.......but would love to lock him out...take my laptop to the lawyers and let them look...oh and my brainiac hubby also did penis pics from AT WORK No wonder they have not called back about his references Stupid stuff like that though it makes me mad cracks me up more ......
Dexter Morgan Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I am very tempted to out my liar and cheating husband TO to his family about his secret life of credit cards....online sex sites...online affairs ...you know those sites like something on the side.......He has borrowed mega bucks from very old parents and hasn't paid them back......owes the IRS ......didn't buy his grandchild a Christmas gift....so much........and yet paid on credit cards he had hidden from me .....he has been having a 2 year hey day on the net and maybe off... If/when I leave..I wonder if I do not tell them what a worm he is ..if I will look like the bad guy...or should I care???? I am not super close to them ...I could just let him squirm...... I think outting a scumbag to his family and friends is a great idea. May not do much, but you sure will get alot of satisfaction out of it. But only do so IF you are going to divorce him. Cuz if you stay with him after you outted him, then family functions are gonna be uncomfortable as hell for you. I never went out and outted my xWife. But when her father wanted to talk to me to say how sorry he was that I wasn't going to be his son-in-law any longer, I told him point blank to his face, "like mother like daughter, your daugther has become a wh0re just like her mom." Her father and mother are divorced. So he calls her up and chews her a new one blaming it all on her. Her mom then calls me and asks if I called her a wh0re. I said, "yes......and??" click....phone call over:cool: so yes, its very satisfying, but only do so if you are going to leave him.
Author ForumFool Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 Lol Dexter you crack me up ...I like your sense of justice......and you have a level head too..yeah I figured I would hold off till the right and safest moment.....safe for me cause he could flip and hit me, he did once way back...or just mess with me and I don't need it .....so I will wait for a divorce or whatever the lawyer tells me to do ...which due to the medical issues and my not working for years could be sadly to stay ..ugh BUT I am asking friends all over the world....no kidding world...to keep copies of his pics and of the letters.....so should I move on it... it may be a googable event too...maybe....Maybe it will all be hard copy and all but either way I have him by the short hairs....and yes I would feel very satisfied by this
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